When Blood Collides
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Comment from w.j.debi
It certainly was a remarkable and unusual wedding. It won't be blending into the annuals of history as a regular ceremony any time soon. Jeff seems to be a bit of an attention grabber no matter the situation. I agree that "mommy" did seem a bit out of place for a grown mad to utter, but probably another way to garner attention.
reply by the author on 28-Jun-2015
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It certainly was a remarkable and unusual wedding. It won't be blending into the annuals of history as a regular ceremony any time soon. Jeff seems to be a bit of an attention grabber no matter the situation. I agree that "mommy" did seem a bit out of place for a grown mad to utter, but probably another way to garner attention.
Comment Written 28-Jun-2015
reply by the author on 28-Jun-2015
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Wow, I see you're getting caught up. Thank you so much. I often wonder if the mommy bit bothered my daughter. Probably not. Just my cross to bear. :-)
Comment from barkingdog
I'm enjoying this wedding. It's very original. Something no one who was there will ever forget. Right, Shari? LOL
Though you didn't like him calling his mother 'Mommy' or his tribute to her, I found it very touching. It was kind of like passing the torch from the woman whom he had love the most all his life, to the woman that he'd love the most for the rest of his life.
:) ellen
reply by the author on 10-Jun-2015
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I'm enjoying this wedding. It's very original. Something no one who was there will ever forget. Right, Shari? LOL
Though you didn't like him calling his mother 'Mommy' or his tribute to her, I found it very touching. It was kind of like passing the torch from the woman whom he had love the most all his life, to the woman that he'd love the most for the rest of his life.
:) ellen
Comment Written 10-Jun-2015
reply by the author on 10-Jun-2015
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I wish I could have felt that enlightened about it. :-)
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You were the mother of the bride. I'm sure your expectations were different. I'd be just an observer.
It was your daughter's special day, and to you, his comments to his mother distracted from that. I get it. You had a perfect right to feel as you did.
Comment from Walu Feral
G'day Shari, great work again mate on another fine chapter. I always enjoy your little thoughts that you put in each chpter, they add to the entertainment. I still think the wedding is the strangest one ever, Delia would run and hide if some giant walked up with the rings on a severed hand LOL. Well done, cheers Fez
reply by the author on 10-Jun-2015
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G'day Shari, great work again mate on another fine chapter. I always enjoy your little thoughts that you put in each chpter, they add to the entertainment. I still think the wedding is the strangest one ever, Delia would run and hide if some giant walked up with the rings on a severed hand LOL. Well done, cheers Fez
Comment Written 10-Jun-2015
reply by the author on 10-Jun-2015
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It would be a freak out if you weren't expecting it.
Shari xx
Comment from IndianaIrish
You make it easy to envision the ceremony, Shari, as you describe things well. I'm glad you enjoyed it as lots of people get pretty perturbed at anything non-traditional. Look forward to more.
Smiles,
Karyn :-)
reply by the author on 10-Jun-2015
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You make it easy to envision the ceremony, Shari, as you describe things well. I'm glad you enjoyed it as lots of people get pretty perturbed at anything non-traditional. Look forward to more.
Smiles,
Karyn :-)
Comment Written 10-Jun-2015
reply by the author on 10-Jun-2015
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I am pleased that my daughter thinks outside the box. Although putting up with Jeff is going a tad too far. Even in high school though, the few boys she liked were underdogs.
Comment from Dean Kuch
"Mommy"? Really....he called his mother..."Mommy?" Good God, for some reason that's enough to make me want to go to the porcelain god and visit Ralph! Grown men don't call their mothers "Mommy". It's a term most kids use, but only up until they're like eight, maybe nine at the latest. Oh, I've heard grown men dying on the battlefield cry out for Mommy, but that's a bit... different.
I know Jeff wasn't into his Bible. At least, I'm pretty much guessing he wasn't. That's one major difference between Jeff, and myself, and a major difference I feel. I am very much into mine. But that aside, the bible clearly states pertaining to marriage; Ephesians 5:31 - For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. Jeff's outward affection towards his "Mommy" at that moment was both disrespectful to your daughter, and the inappropriate time to do so. Wedding vows are a sacred bond (or at least, they should be) between a husband, and his wife -- and vice versa. It's not the time to be acknowledging your Mommy. It should be all about honoring and acknowledging your wife.
Jeff's father was a policeman and killed in the line of duty when he was still a baby. That explains his playing with Barbie dolls and dress up. I'm sorry if this offends you, but the guy sounds like a pure panty waste to me, but that's just an opinion formulated on what you've written about the guy. Were I to meet Jeff in person, I might like him. But, if I EVER heard him call his mother "Mommy" in front of me, it would be on like Donkey-Kong, heh-heh-heh...
~Dean ;)
reply by the author on 09-Jun-2015
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"Mommy"? Really....he called his mother..."Mommy?" Good God, for some reason that's enough to make me want to go to the porcelain god and visit Ralph! Grown men don't call their mothers "Mommy". It's a term most kids use, but only up until they're like eight, maybe nine at the latest. Oh, I've heard grown men dying on the battlefield cry out for Mommy, but that's a bit... different.
I know Jeff wasn't into his Bible. At least, I'm pretty much guessing he wasn't. That's one major difference between Jeff, and myself, and a major difference I feel. I am very much into mine. But that aside, the bible clearly states pertaining to marriage; Ephesians 5:31 - For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. Jeff's outward affection towards his "Mommy" at that moment was both disrespectful to your daughter, and the inappropriate time to do so. Wedding vows are a sacred bond (or at least, they should be) between a husband, and his wife -- and vice versa. It's not the time to be acknowledging your Mommy. It should be all about honoring and acknowledging your wife.
Jeff's father was a policeman and killed in the line of duty when he was still a baby. That explains his playing with Barbie dolls and dress up. I'm sorry if this offends you, but the guy sounds like a pure panty waste to me, but that's just an opinion formulated on what you've written about the guy. Were I to meet Jeff in person, I might like him. But, if I EVER heard him call his mother "Mommy" in front of me, it would be on like Donkey-Kong, heh-heh-heh...
~Dean ;)
Comment Written 09-Jun-2015
reply by the author on 09-Jun-2015
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I so agree with you on the disrespect for his bride, but you're the only one to mention it. I thought you'd get a kick out of the severed hand.
Would you believe this jerk had the nerve to ask me one time if my husband was gay! I guess I must have mentioned we have separate bedrooms since he grinds his teeth and I'm a restless sleeper anyway--all over the place. I've heard a lot of women say they'd love to have their own room after several years of marriage.
You're right about Jeff and Nichole too--neither one big on religion although Nichole believes in a Divine Being. Jeff believes in himself. LOL
Comment from Tatarka2
OMG. I don't know how you could have told this any better. The best way to tell something like this, I think, is just the way it happened, which you did. If anything, I think you might consider leaving out any of the references to what you personally think *(i.e., "Frank and I agreed with him on both counts.") This story stands alone. I think it will be even more powerful if you just let the reader come to their own conclusions. They are obvious.
reply by the author on 09-Jun-2015
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OMG. I don't know how you could have told this any better. The best way to tell something like this, I think, is just the way it happened, which you did. If anything, I think you might consider leaving out any of the references to what you personally think *(i.e., "Frank and I agreed with him on both counts.") This story stands alone. I think it will be even more powerful if you just let the reader come to their own conclusions. They are obvious.
Comment Written 09-Jun-2015
reply by the author on 09-Jun-2015
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Thanks, T. Guess I can't resist these personal feelings. :-)
Comment from judiverse
This is a truly compelling account of the wedding. With Jeff, everything seems to be all about him, as he really admits. Reading your account, I wonder how anyone could have taken the marriage seriously. It was more like a production. You certainly had to endure a lot throughout the wedding. It's amazing you could take it all with such grace. Just reading about it brings a desire to reach out and smack him. The appearance of the rings might have excited the guests, but it sounds kind of sick. You were a brave soldier to get through it. judi
reply by the author on 09-Jun-2015
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This is a truly compelling account of the wedding. With Jeff, everything seems to be all about him, as he really admits. Reading your account, I wonder how anyone could have taken the marriage seriously. It was more like a production. You certainly had to endure a lot throughout the wedding. It's amazing you could take it all with such grace. Just reading about it brings a desire to reach out and smack him. The appearance of the rings might have excited the guests, but it sounds kind of sick. You were a brave soldier to get through it. judi
Comment Written 09-Jun-2015
reply by the author on 09-Jun-2015
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LOL. The wedding was fun. The real harm was done at the reception although my husband was far more upset about what happened.
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Oh, dear. I can't wait to find out what Jeff did to set your hubby off at the reception. judi
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Oh, dear. I can't wait to find out what Jeff did to set your hubby off at the reception. judi
Comment from Phyllis Stewart
Nobody told you to stay there to have your picture taken with bride and groom? I'm surprised they didn't at least come for you to include you. But now I'm guessing at what happened.
From what I've heard Jeff say, the fact he liked girls' stuff as a kid and loves his mother so much means, to me, that he appreciates women, doesn't just use them, and maybe the strength of his love for Nichole is what kept her with him. He may have a lot of flaws, but it seems like he reeeeeally loves your daughter, and that has to be a good thing for the future. He's hardly an insensitive brute, the worst kind of husband, and there are lots of those. They cheat and lie and hang out with male friends, live for sports, and keep a wife for sex and cooking. Be grateful for Jeff's oddities if this is one of them. My hubby is a lot like the Jeff seen in his speech. Loved his mom a LOT and made no secret of it (I despised the 400 lb. bitch) and loves me more than himself (tho I haven't a clue WHY). :)
reply by the author on 09-Jun-2015
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Nobody told you to stay there to have your picture taken with bride and groom? I'm surprised they didn't at least come for you to include you. But now I'm guessing at what happened.
From what I've heard Jeff say, the fact he liked girls' stuff as a kid and loves his mother so much means, to me, that he appreciates women, doesn't just use them, and maybe the strength of his love for Nichole is what kept her with him. He may have a lot of flaws, but it seems like he reeeeeally loves your daughter, and that has to be a good thing for the future. He's hardly an insensitive brute, the worst kind of husband, and there are lots of those. They cheat and lie and hang out with male friends, live for sports, and keep a wife for sex and cooking. Be grateful for Jeff's oddities if this is one of them. My hubby is a lot like the Jeff seen in his speech. Loved his mom a LOT and made no secret of it (I despised the 400 lb. bitch) and loves me more than himself (tho I haven't a clue WHY). :)
Comment Written 09-Jun-2015
reply by the author on 09-Jun-2015
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OMG. I don't know if pictures were taken. If so, I didn't get a copy. No, it's another production plan. I like the way you look at Jeff's tribute to his mother. Oh yes, he loves Nichole and I think that's why she puts up with him. Your husband sounds like a gem, although the mommy worship can break up a marriage. I know why he's devoted to you. You're still sweet and na•ve and full of love for everyone.
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"You're still sweet and na?ve and full of love for everyone."
Boy, do I have you bamboozled. LOL! Thanks, sweetie. You're pretty nice yourself. :)
Comment from boxergirl
Haha...you can't make this stuff up...I would love to have seen this wedding in prrson. I have to give Jeff some credit and Nicole too.
Sorry to see trouble on the horizon...always something when you get families together. You do a great job narrating it. 8-)
reply by the author on 09-Jun-2015
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Haha...you can't make this stuff up...I would love to have seen this wedding in prrson. I have to give Jeff some credit and Nicole too.
Sorry to see trouble on the horizon...always something when you get families together. You do a great job narrating it. 8-)
Comment Written 09-Jun-2015
reply by the author on 09-Jun-2015
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Thanks, BG. I tried to talk them into going public with it--film for a reality show. But no, in spite of wanting to be actors, they wanted their own life private.
Comment from Louise Michelle
Hi Shari,
I was thinking the exact same thing when I read Mommy.
God, Jeff is getting more and more bizarre.
That episode with Lurch, the ring bearer, is a hoot.
The ending is absolutely delightful! A perfect way to wrap up this weird ceremony. This is the best chapter yet.
Hugs,
Lou
reply by the author on 08-Jun-2015
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Hi Shari,
I was thinking the exact same thing when I read Mommy.
God, Jeff is getting more and more bizarre.
That episode with Lurch, the ring bearer, is a hoot.
The ending is absolutely delightful! A perfect way to wrap up this weird ceremony. This is the best chapter yet.
Hugs,
Lou
Comment Written 08-Jun-2015
reply by the author on 08-Jun-2015
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Thanks, Lou. At least, it's something that struck me funny too. Except I thought it bizarre to talk about his mother at the wedding. Nichole didn't thank me for bringing her up. LOL
