The Tres Amigas
Viewing comments for Chapter 4 "The Tres Amigas-February 22, 2015 SE"A weekly advice column
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Comment from LIJ Red
You continue to give a wide array of answers, to be chosen from or blended and used together. In the workplace, committees almost always produce better answers to problems in the long run.
reply by the author on 22-Feb-2015
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You continue to give a wide array of answers, to be chosen from or blended and used together. In the workplace, committees almost always produce better answers to problems in the long run.
Comment Written 22-Feb-2015
reply by the author on 22-Feb-2015
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Not necessarily. It is a coincidence that these three women agree on anything and as a committee, I'm certain the only real advice they'd give is to believe in your gut instinct.
Comment from alf collier
Hi Spiritual echo. it is always good to have people who will take on the role of advisors fro these sorts of situations. you seem to have it under control, alf
reply by the author on 22-Feb-2015
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Hi Spiritual echo. it is always good to have people who will take on the role of advisors fro these sorts of situations. you seem to have it under control, alf
Comment Written 22-Feb-2015
reply by the author on 22-Feb-2015
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We don't decide outcomes, we simply hang up our laundry and chat over the fence.
Comment from damodarboruah
The illuminating insightful questions put to Amigas are quite common problems encountered by many-but helplessly hidden within home or can't be unexplored for social snub!
In the first query put by volunteer coach regarding sexual interference which is quite common among those poor attitude children as a result the coach is blamed.The solution by Librarian is the best,and it's time for the coach is to live with patience and be bold as everyday new issues come,besides there's no problem for him in the eyes of law.
The Hooker's realistic solution as in the initial years husband and wife have initial problem of sharing toilet and bathroom together adjacently,but after five years no problem just playing ang giggling together.Indeed some problem comes but urging one to go slower that's the best option.
The cynic replies for the best solution is to have creative pursuit and go for neutral environment to chill-out from the sour behaviour of grand-son's wife,that's the best way to find new and bring forth change in grandfather's mind in search of new goal creating self-realization of guilt by grandson as well as by his wife.
These are the true glimpses of social fabric across borders either one in North-America or one in Asia;all want love,respect,trust,understanding-that's the true message of this chapter-February 22,2015 SE of The Tres Amigas.
reply by the author on 22-Feb-2015
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The illuminating insightful questions put to Amigas are quite common problems encountered by many-but helplessly hidden within home or can't be unexplored for social snub!
In the first query put by volunteer coach regarding sexual interference which is quite common among those poor attitude children as a result the coach is blamed.The solution by Librarian is the best,and it's time for the coach is to live with patience and be bold as everyday new issues come,besides there's no problem for him in the eyes of law.
The Hooker's realistic solution as in the initial years husband and wife have initial problem of sharing toilet and bathroom together adjacently,but after five years no problem just playing ang giggling together.Indeed some problem comes but urging one to go slower that's the best option.
The cynic replies for the best solution is to have creative pursuit and go for neutral environment to chill-out from the sour behaviour of grand-son's wife,that's the best way to find new and bring forth change in grandfather's mind in search of new goal creating self-realization of guilt by grandson as well as by his wife.
These are the true glimpses of social fabric across borders either one in North-America or one in Asia;all want love,respect,trust,understanding-that's the true message of this chapter-February 22,2015 SE of The Tres Amigas.
Comment Written 21-Feb-2015
reply by the author on 22-Feb-2015
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You are absolutely right. This is a social tapestry and not one of the three women claim to be experts, but simply talk across the fence and offer their opinions. Thank you for both the feedback and the stars. The ladies love BLING!
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Thank u,friend.
Comment from Zue65
I like the idea, it's just like you are having a column of your own within the orbit of the FanStory site. If that is allowed by the FanStory Team, then why not. The idea is fresh and is a very good diversion from the usual reviews we make. Good luck. i enjoyed the read.
reply by the author on 21-Feb-2015
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I like the idea, it's just like you are having a column of your own within the orbit of the FanStory site. If that is allowed by the FanStory Team, then why not. The idea is fresh and is a very good diversion from the usual reviews we make. Good luck. i enjoyed the read.
Comment Written 21-Feb-2015
reply by the author on 21-Feb-2015
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This concept is now in its third week and for history you can pick up the conception and birth in Spiritual Echo's portfolio. It is running on FS as a test before being launched in mass media. Thank you for your interest.
Comment from samsaysagain
Good. this is an interesting approach to starting a public Q&A help column. The editor in charge of replies needs to be careful what is said to avoid being sued his/her self. The advice given for child abuse is correct IMO using these lines "When it comes to issues regarding child abuse, everyone would agree, it's better to err on the side of caution than to jeopardize a child's safety."
The same caution should be used for the other situations whether it be about a husband and wife's ideas/feelings on privacy,relationships,or friends/neighbors simply being busybodies. Even if a suggestion or advise from someone is sincere caution is still the policy to follow. You can always say "I'll pray about this" or "Maybe you should get a counselor's opinion". In that way your not deciding for the person (which is not good to do)but encouraging them to develop their own way of supporting others who need help.
As a last resort the one needing help can always look in the newspaper for an advice columnist.
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reply by the author on 21-Feb-2015
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Good. this is an interesting approach to starting a public Q&A help column. The editor in charge of replies needs to be careful what is said to avoid being sued his/her self. The advice given for child abuse is correct IMO using these lines "When it comes to issues regarding child abuse, everyone would agree, it's better to err on the side of caution than to jeopardize a child's safety."
The same caution should be used for the other situations whether it be about a husband and wife's ideas/feelings on privacy,relationships,or friends/neighbors simply being busybodies. Even if a suggestion or advise from someone is sincere caution is still the policy to follow. You can always say "I'll pray about this" or "Maybe you should get a counselor's opinion". In that way your not deciding for the person (which is not good to do)but encouraging them to develop their own way of supporting others who need help.
As a last resort the one needing help can always look in the newspaper for an advice columnist.
This rating does not count towards story rating or author rank.
The highest and the lowest rating are not included in calculations.
Comment Written 21-Feb-2015
reply by the author on 21-Feb-2015
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I guess THE CYNIC would tell you to piss off, but as I represent the more conservative members of the amigas, I'll just thank you for weighing in with your legal advice.
Comment from donaldcolson
This is excellent work, both from the point of writing and the content that addresses relatively common but difficult relationship issues. I don't understand the choice of cynic for one of tour contributors as she does not sound particularly cynical. You should do well of making something significant of this effort. don
reply by the author on 21-Feb-2015
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This is excellent work, both from the point of writing and the content that addresses relatively common but difficult relationship issues. I don't understand the choice of cynic for one of tour contributors as she does not sound particularly cynical. You should do well of making something significant of this effort. don
Comment Written 21-Feb-2015
reply by the author on 21-Feb-2015
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Ah, together we stand, divided we fall...what can I say...
Thanks for the stellar review. Who has stars left on a Saturday night?
THE CYNIC doesn't believe in second chances, poetry or roses.
Comment from Debbie Noland
I am loving this. Your different personalities, upbringings, cultures, and writing styles enable you to bring very different perspectives to the questions, sort of like a mini "The View," except that the topics, thankfully, are not political in nature. I continue to think you are onto something with the partnership, and look forward to your next offering.
reply by the author on 21-Feb-2015
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I am loving this. Your different personalities, upbringings, cultures, and writing styles enable you to bring very different perspectives to the questions, sort of like a mini "The View," except that the topics, thankfully, are not political in nature. I continue to think you are onto something with the partnership, and look forward to your next offering.
Comment Written 21-Feb-2015
reply by the author on 21-Feb-2015
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The one thing we do share is an absolute belief that women really can sort through their issues and are not victims, but rather spectacular miracles of the universe.
Comment from emrpoems
Keep up the good work. I thing the combination of hooker cynic and librarian was very smart and to date you all give very intelligent and real life advice. Love to follow the write
reply by the author on 21-Feb-2015
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Keep up the good work. I thing the combination of hooker cynic and librarian was very smart and to date you all give very intelligent and real life advice. Love to follow the write
Comment Written 21-Feb-2015
reply by the author on 21-Feb-2015
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We may squabble, but none of us are dumb broads.
Comment from Jay Squires
I've said it before, but this is a fascinating concept. Are the answers posted blind, or do each of you read the others' responses before the post? Just a curiosity.
You know, I thought this had been abandoned after the first one. That was because I wasn't aware of the other posts. Of the three of you, you're the only one I'm a fan of, so it shows up in my inbox only when you post it. I suppose I can follow Smurphgirlsasha and that would get me two out of the three postings.
There's not much flaring of opinions between you three contributors. I thought there might be with the bathroom accessibility issue, but no. I agree with your position on that.
I didn't find any SPAG, Ingrid. Please keep me in the loop about your success with this commercially.
reply by the author on 21-Feb-2015
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I've said it before, but this is a fascinating concept. Are the answers posted blind, or do each of you read the others' responses before the post? Just a curiosity.
You know, I thought this had been abandoned after the first one. That was because I wasn't aware of the other posts. Of the three of you, you're the only one I'm a fan of, so it shows up in my inbox only when you post it. I suppose I can follow Smurphgirlsasha and that would get me two out of the three postings.
There's not much flaring of opinions between you three contributors. I thought there might be with the bathroom accessibility issue, but no. I agree with your position on that.
I didn't find any SPAG, Ingrid. Please keep me in the loop about your success with this commercially.
Comment Written 21-Feb-2015
reply by the author on 21-Feb-2015
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Yes, it is definitely a commercial project we are filtering through FS, As a brand, I really think this can work. We do not chat about our answers, but yes, I hold the concept, the copy write, the stewardship and the editorial rights. Last week's questions were a hoot, but you need to go into THE HOOKER's portfolio to see the question.
Comment from gypsycaravan
Terrific work, as all the previous issues. The librarian's answers are somewhat akin to my old persona--a doormat-roll over and take anything. i don't mean that as a slam against her, but the answers ring so much like 1950's expectations of a woman. Having the 3 answers is preferable though to get a slant on both sides of an issue. Good work.
reply by the author on 21-Feb-2015
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Terrific work, as all the previous issues. The librarian's answers are somewhat akin to my old persona--a doormat-roll over and take anything. i don't mean that as a slam against her, but the answers ring so much like 1950's expectations of a woman. Having the 3 answers is preferable though to get a slant on both sides of an issue. Good work.
Comment Written 21-Feb-2015
reply by the author on 21-Feb-2015
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No kidding! I call her Mrs. Cleaver, but she shudders and calls for Ward. It does make for a fragile working condition
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Better you than me, sister. She'd have me blocked in a heartbeat. Ha. After my horrendous divorce from 25 yrs. of marriage, a therapist said he wanted me to get angry and he was going to work with me to take me to an aggressive platform, stating that I would then balance back to a nice assertive posture in time. Of course, I'm still standing on the aggressive platform 32 yrs. later. LOL
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Me too--we should talk about this. I can destroy a perceived enemy at fifty feet, but I tend to have a LOT of collateral damage.
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I have a feeling that the two of us together could clear out a room fairly fast. Ha.
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No doubt, yet you fled from pissy remarks, a challenge and a few idiots. Explain that. Every arena is filled with sacrificial lambs, but that's not you. Just come back and reverse the disabled posts. Make the weak earn their glory. ingrid
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Actually, that's not true, even though I wanted to put the mark on some nasty reviewers with my exit.
I am really happy with my decision. Several things were said that were rather nasty, but I don't let words bother me. However, they set me to thinking. How many hours do I spend a day reading and reviewing to have enough funny money to post my own writing, when I could be writing instead? How unimportant the 'stars' and 'rankings' are as opposed to unlimited time to write and enjoy some other things in my life? If I was receiving any quality help for my prose, I might have felt differently. But you really only get 'attaboys' or an occasional spag catch.. For the time spent here, I could take a course that would offer a great deal of help, if I so desired.
The people are the best part of Fan Story for me. Honestly, the idiots didn't drive me away, just set me to thinking about what I was or wasn't getting while here.
Being ornery as I am, I just added some barbs in my swan song about the nasty remarks for the benefit of those good people (my friends) on FS. Hope the grouches will behave for a little while, at least. LOL
I'm still reading and reviewing because that's how I learn what works and what doesn't. I use my member dollars to promote the works of some really good writers here that need a boost up. The best part, though, is I've started doing some other things again instead of just FS. I actually spend more time with my terrific hubby, go hiking and on photo shoots with him again and probably will start painting again this coming week. It's time for some moderation in my life.
I've had my website since 2010 so it's not a lark on my part to put my writings there again. Actually, my family and friends have access and can enjoy (or not) my writing again.
The new Chicken Soup for the Soul-Hope and Miracles just came out and has one of my stories in it. I plan to use some of this free time to start submitting to publications and contests again.
Thanks for your kind words. Let's stay in touch.
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For what it's worth, I'm proud of you. Ingrid Thomson
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It's worth a lot to me, as you are probably the writer and virtual person I most respect on this site. I use everything you write to try to improve my own scribblings.
From your #1 fan Shirley Dilley aka gypsycaravan
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It s a pleasure to meet you Miss Shirley Dilley.
