Reasons, Seasons or Lifelong
Seperating the wheat from the chaffe20 total reviews
Comment from jlsavell
Spiritual Echo, another wonderful piece that spills in your philosophical brilliance. I was very much drawn into this work and find that you have explained exactly what I could not in deciphering between true friends and just acquaintances. well done... jimi
reply by the author on 25-Sep-2012
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Spiritual Echo, another wonderful piece that spills in your philosophical brilliance. I was very much drawn into this work and find that you have explained exactly what I could not in deciphering between true friends and just acquaintances. well done... jimi
Comment Written 25-Sep-2012
reply by the author on 25-Sep-2012
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On paper everything seems logical, but lose a good friend you thought would be part of your life forever, and the pain and loss is not so easy to compartamentalize.
Comment from catch22
This is a beautiful and reflective piece about true friendship and how a lifelong friend can change one for the better and helps define who we are. These friends I can count on one hand, but I always look back on how they helped me grow as a person and were there for me in my time of need. I am glad to read your thoughts on the subject and how one particular friend was a support system for you in your hour of need. Well-written piece, and thank you for sharing.
reply by the author on 04-Sep-2012
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This is a beautiful and reflective piece about true friendship and how a lifelong friend can change one for the better and helps define who we are. These friends I can count on one hand, but I always look back on how they helped me grow as a person and were there for me in my time of need. I am glad to read your thoughts on the subject and how one particular friend was a support system for you in your hour of need. Well-written piece, and thank you for sharing.
Comment Written 03-Sep-2012
reply by the author on 04-Sep-2012
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Sometimes really good friends don't act or talk the way we'd like, but their intentions are pure.
Comment from forestport12
As often the case your writing connects to me and takes me on a selfish journey recalling a phone call of someone I knew and how some friendships are meant to be forever. Thanks for the sharing.
reply by the author on 02-Sep-2012
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As often the case your writing connects to me and takes me on a selfish journey recalling a phone call of someone I knew and how some friendships are meant to be forever. Thanks for the sharing.
Comment Written 02-Sep-2012
reply by the author on 02-Sep-2012
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Before you wander too far down melancholy lane, remember I EXPECT an all expense paid trip to NY when you start the talk show circuit. That better be the Pierre. Be warned!
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If I get that far, a limo will be waiting for you at the airport.
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Piss on that! I want one in Cambridge to deliver me to the airport in Toronto and i FULLY EXPECT to pass by customs with minimal disruption to board the Lear Jet you commissioned to haul me into the Excited States of America.
It will happen. May I live long enough to be an expense!
Comment from Cumbrianlass
The warmth of this write is fantastic, Ingrid. You are SO good at this. I love the way you strip away the layers of humanity. It's quite remarkable.
We don't have to search for words or scavenge through tangles of threads, the woven tapestries of time, to find the knot that allows us to sink into familiarity or comfortable trust. We arrive in a heartbeat, pull out the frayed memory and load it into our present. - Beautiful.
I, the fearless eagle, the soaring predator that only killed for food, was falling. I felt like a sparrow, helpless and vulnerable - Wow.
Someone will likely tell me who first coined the phrase that there are friendships that last for a season, a reason and a lifetime. In the ensuing years I stopped fooling myself, stopped calling reason-based friendships by that name. They were acquaintances, some lasting decades, some genuinely infused with real affection, but they were not friends.
Sometimes it doesn't get to that point because of circumstances, differences in lifestyle, age or geography, and possibly, given a different situation, might have taken a piece of our heart with them on their journey, but they are not friends. Seasonal friendships are often ended through death or a chasm that divides them, the proverbial line in the sand; the person we once adored, but who when given a choice between responsibil(i)ty or freedom, abandoned their children, crossed a moral boundary that remained un()repairable against our own moral compass.
We only knew them as childless, adored them for whom and what they were in our lives, but couldn't face them when they took an ethical point of view so far removed from our own. - Just suggest that you split this paragraph.
Very special. Very you.
Loved it.
Av
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reply by the author on 02-Sep-2012
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The warmth of this write is fantastic, Ingrid. You are SO good at this. I love the way you strip away the layers of humanity. It's quite remarkable.
We don't have to search for words or scavenge through tangles of threads, the woven tapestries of time, to find the knot that allows us to sink into familiarity or comfortable trust. We arrive in a heartbeat, pull out the frayed memory and load it into our present. - Beautiful.
I, the fearless eagle, the soaring predator that only killed for food, was falling. I felt like a sparrow, helpless and vulnerable - Wow.
Someone will likely tell me who first coined the phrase that there are friendships that last for a season, a reason and a lifetime. In the ensuing years I stopped fooling myself, stopped calling reason-based friendships by that name. They were acquaintances, some lasting decades, some genuinely infused with real affection, but they were not friends.
Sometimes it doesn't get to that point because of circumstances, differences in lifestyle, age or geography, and possibly, given a different situation, might have taken a piece of our heart with them on their journey, but they are not friends. Seasonal friendships are often ended through death or a chasm that divides them, the proverbial line in the sand; the person we once adored, but who when given a choice between responsibil(i)ty or freedom, abandoned their children, crossed a moral boundary that remained un()repairable against our own moral compass.
We only knew them as childless, adored them for whom and what they were in our lives, but couldn't face them when they took an ethical point of view so far removed from our own. - Just suggest that you split this paragraph.
Very special. Very you.
Loved it.
Av
xx
Comment Written 02-Sep-2012
reply by the author on 02-Sep-2012
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What are you wearing to the wedding?
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My French Maid outfit.
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If you need me to scour the city for seamed fish-net stockings let me know early. I'll be really pissed off if you send me on a mission at the last minute!
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Thanks, Ingrid. No worries. I know some people.
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Dirty, dirty little girl. I will send flashes of inspiration into the universe next Saturday. This is a spectacular moment in your life and may you swirl, twirl and sing under the stars.
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:o) That made me smile.
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Comment from Chrisfiore
Hello again,
Your reflection on friendships mirrors my own. I don't know why it is, but we seem to pass through this life accompanied with strangers who share the same situations. Why some falter while others thrive is beyond me.
Maybe the old adage is true: to have a friend you have to be one. ;)
Chrisfiore
reply by the author on 02-Sep-2012
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Hello again,
Your reflection on friendships mirrors my own. I don't know why it is, but we seem to pass through this life accompanied with strangers who share the same situations. Why some falter while others thrive is beyond me.
Maybe the old adage is true: to have a friend you have to be one. ;)
Chrisfiore
Comment Written 02-Sep-2012
reply by the author on 02-Sep-2012
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You know, ironically it is what I drummed into my kids brain for the first thity years and not so surpisingly, for the last seven years he has been my best friend.
Comment from humpwhistle
An interesting take on defining and categorizing
friendships. This almost feels like an extension
of, or at least an adjunct to, your Retirement pieces.
Lots of colorful, and extended analogies.
Yes, Ingrid. You do have a style.
Peace, Lee
reply by the author on 01-Sep-2012
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An interesting take on defining and categorizing
friendships. This almost feels like an extension
of, or at least an adjunct to, your Retirement pieces.
Lots of colorful, and extended analogies.
Yes, Ingrid. You do have a style.
Peace, Lee
Comment Written 01-Sep-2012
reply by the author on 01-Sep-2012
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Many styles in life, from that of royalty to the swarthy earthiness of a truck driver. Hugs, ingrid.
Comment from Realist101
Hi Ingrid! I found this comforting, and sort of melancholy, tho in a wistful, nice way. And as always, superbly written. I cherish my FS friends. All of you, and feel you guys are in many ways, more true than some of my 'real life' buds. Sad. I wish I had a six for you. This is wonderful ... xoxo. Susan
reply by the author on 01-Sep-2012
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Hi Ingrid! I found this comforting, and sort of melancholy, tho in a wistful, nice way. And as always, superbly written. I cherish my FS friends. All of you, and feel you guys are in many ways, more true than some of my 'real life' buds. Sad. I wish I had a six for you. This is wonderful ... xoxo. Susan
Comment Written 01-Sep-2012
reply by the author on 01-Sep-2012
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If it comforts you, then that is great. Gord is not terribly different than my FS friends, although we had a real-life foundation, but I haven't seen him for years and may not for years ahead, Still when the connection is made through phone or email we can trust in each other. I consider you my friend. ingrid
Comment from Dawn Munro
As I read this I call to mind a handful of people I know that fit into the close category - you have written a thoughtful and warm essay here and I am glad you decided to share it.
reply by the author on 01-Sep-2012
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As I read this I call to mind a handful of people I know that fit into the close category - you have written a thoughtful and warm essay here and I am glad you decided to share it.
Comment Written 01-Sep-2012
reply by the author on 01-Sep-2012
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Ad I, am glad I am remembered and that Gord phoned me.
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Yes, I'll bet- that's always very special, isn't it? :)
Comment from DALLAS01
This truly deserves a six, sorry I do not have one. You have successfully given us a detailed map of what a lasting friendship looks, or should I say feels like, compared to where some of the other routes, that veer off in so many different directions, may wind up. Loved it.
reply by the author on 01-Sep-2012
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This truly deserves a six, sorry I do not have one. You have successfully given us a detailed map of what a lasting friendship looks, or should I say feels like, compared to where some of the other routes, that veer off in so many different directions, may wind up. Loved it.
Comment Written 01-Sep-2012
reply by the author on 01-Sep-2012
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Great. I don't think my feelings are very different than others. Nice to be reminded of what we value.
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I think you are right, we are all very much alike, espcially in our needs and wants.
Comment from dmt1967
I like this story it shows what a good friend is and I like the way it sounded it was sad in places and happy in places but whatever it was good all over thank you for sharing
reply by the author on 31-Aug-2012
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I like this story it shows what a good friend is and I like the way it sounded it was sad in places and happy in places but whatever it was good all over thank you for sharing
Comment Written 31-Aug-2012
reply by the author on 31-Aug-2012
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And, thank you for reaing and sharing.
