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Comment from Pearl Edwards
A good monorhymed poem to start this chapter, Lea. And to think this brutality and inifference has come through generations of lies and abuse. Good on you for saying STOP.
cheers,
valda
reply by the author on 08-Dec-2023
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A good monorhymed poem to start this chapter, Lea. And to think this brutality and inifference has come through generations of lies and abuse. Good on you for saying STOP.
cheers,
valda
Comment Written 08-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 08-Dec-2023
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Thank you again for your kind words. I appreciate your support and all the things you say! Thank you also for your kind compliment as well. I'm always happy to see your review thank you!
Comment from T B Botts
Hello Lea,
I don't think most people realize that the actions that they take will bear consequences that they can't begin to see. Families are complex by their nature. It's why we need to have a relationship with God and get some wisdom in how to raise our children and treat our spouses. I'm glad that you decided to put an end to the abuse with your family. I hope your boys read your story. We all have a story to share with our families, to give them some insight into who they are, and an opportunity to make changes or at least choices. Thanks for sharing this gal.
Have a blessed evening.
Tom
reply by the author on 16-Nov-2023
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Hello Lea,
I don't think most people realize that the actions that they take will bear consequences that they can't begin to see. Families are complex by their nature. It's why we need to have a relationship with God and get some wisdom in how to raise our children and treat our spouses. I'm glad that you decided to put an end to the abuse with your family. I hope your boys read your story. We all have a story to share with our families, to give them some insight into who they are, and an opportunity to make changes or at least choices. Thanks for sharing this gal.
Have a blessed evening.
Tom
Comment Written 15-Nov-2023
reply by the author on 16-Nov-2023
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Thank you Tom it's always I appreciate your wisdom! I'm always happy to see you here offering your thoughts. Thank you for that too.
I wish for life were simple sometimes that's just not the way it is! I've always believed in God and always known he's been there. I see things others do not. There are a few like me in the world. But not too many so I know 100%. He's there and so are our loved ones who pass before us.
That everyone and I mean everyone in the end we're all okay. Thank you so much I appreciate you have a great night!
Comment from CrystieCookie999
This chapter points out that a grandmother who engaged in promiscuity in spite of being married seems to have magnified all kinds of problems later on as well. So the stepfather was Japanese?
A suggestion to watch out for fragments.
This sentence read a bit awkwardly:
Then there's us three girls my stepfather got free tickets to mayhem.
I think it would sound better as:
We three sisters ended up being used and abused by my stepfather, as if he had received free tickets to commit mayhem against us.
reply by the author on 16-Nov-2023
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This chapter points out that a grandmother who engaged in promiscuity in spite of being married seems to have magnified all kinds of problems later on as well. So the stepfather was Japanese?
A suggestion to watch out for fragments.
This sentence read a bit awkwardly:
Then there's us three girls my stepfather got free tickets to mayhem.
I think it would sound better as:
We three sisters ended up being used and abused by my stepfather, as if he had received free tickets to commit mayhem against us.
Comment Written 14-Nov-2023
reply by the author on 16-Nov-2023
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That's a great suggestion. Thank you very much. Sorry I'm a little bit behind. Thank you very much. I'm always happy to see your reviews! You're a smart writer and I take my cues from you and others You have such great ability. Thank you for reading along again. I appreciate your company. Truly it's a journey. Thanks again!
Comment from LJbutterfly
This chapter explains everything. I hate to say it, but you described a dysfunctional family originating with your grandmother. She laid the groundwork for nine children who looked to her for guidance. No wonder your mother never knew how to lovingly care for her three children. Your mother never received such love. However, she should have broken the curse for her family. She didn't. So now here you are, examining what went wrong and trying to make things as right as possible by admitting the truth. Your mother should know, we are all watching the truth unfold.
reply by the author on 14-Nov-2023
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This chapter explains everything. I hate to say it, but you described a dysfunctional family originating with your grandmother. She laid the groundwork for nine children who looked to her for guidance. No wonder your mother never knew how to lovingly care for her three children. Your mother never received such love. However, she should have broken the curse for her family. She didn't. So now here you are, examining what went wrong and trying to make things as right as possible by admitting the truth. Your mother should know, we are all watching the truth unfold.
Comment Written 13-Nov-2023
reply by the author on 14-Nov-2023
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Thank you that's very real and very on the money my mother had issues, but she also learned narcissism from my grandmother too. Which is sad, because it overtakes everythank you so much again. I am so happy to see you here. I'm very appreciated too it's like gold truly!
Comment from JSD
Aww. What a gorgeous picture. Have you tried modelling? But seriously it is a testament to the amazing person you have become. A lot of brushing needed for those dogs though!
The hypocrisy in this piece and the frightening litany of trauma across the generations are gut wrenching.
Take care. Xxx
reply by the author on 13-Nov-2023
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Aww. What a gorgeous picture. Have you tried modelling? But seriously it is a testament to the amazing person you have become. A lot of brushing needed for those dogs though!
The hypocrisy in this piece and the frightening litany of trauma across the generations are gut wrenching.
Take care. Xxx
Comment Written 13-Nov-2023
reply by the author on 13-Nov-2023
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Thank you, that's a fine compliment, no I never thought of modeling. What's my thing? I guess I worked a lot. Especially after my husband passed 2 jobs I worked. It wasn't much time for anything he died. I put my face to the grindstone. And twenty years later my sons were growing and gone. Thank you for your kindness and for understanding and for your empathy. Appreciate you being here!
Comment from BethShelby
It sounds like you family is very extensive and as your grandmother said, the sins have been visited down for generations. It was her sins so it surpriseing that she acknowledged it. It is good you have decided that it ends with you. I'm sure you are going to tell us how you finally managed to escape and what the story is now with your two sisters. You are beautiful by the way. You should be entitled to a beautiful life. I still want to hear the rest of your story up to the present.
reply by the author on 13-Nov-2023
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It sounds like you family is very extensive and as your grandmother said, the sins have been visited down for generations. It was her sins so it surpriseing that she acknowledged it. It is good you have decided that it ends with you. I'm sure you are going to tell us how you finally managed to escape and what the story is now with your two sisters. You are beautiful by the way. You should be entitled to a beautiful life. I still want to hear the rest of your story up to the present.
Comment Written 13-Nov-2023
reply by the author on 13-Nov-2023
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Thank you for that lovely compliment. I so appreciate that it sounds like a broken record. But I wanted to keep saying thank you and thank you again! Unfortunately, my grandmother never admitted a thing. She took the truth to her death and refuse to tell her own children even though they begged her to. I found out her from her eldest son my uncle And by d n a evidence later in life. Once again I thank you I'll always happy to see you're having a grand evening!
Comment from Debbie D'Arcy
Firstly, what a beautiful picture of a very strong woman (your power oozes through that photo). Then, this is a great way of putting your story into the context of history and those family behaviours that will simply perpetuate through the generations unless stopped in their tracks. There are a number of edits needed and it would help to give this another proof read. I can mention a few here: "higher up politicians;" last sentence of para starting "Mother..." doesn't read very well; para starting "With my mother's indifference....(she) and (he), not 'her' and 'he'. But well done, Lea, you put flesh on the bones in your, as ever, very engaging story. Take care Debbie x
reply by the author on 13-Nov-2023
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Firstly, what a beautiful picture of a very strong woman (your power oozes through that photo). Then, this is a great way of putting your story into the context of history and those family behaviours that will simply perpetuate through the generations unless stopped in their tracks. There are a number of edits needed and it would help to give this another proof read. I can mention a few here: "higher up politicians;" last sentence of para starting "Mother..." doesn't read very well; para starting "With my mother's indifference....(she) and (he), not 'her' and 'he'. But well done, Lea, you put flesh on the bones in your, as ever, very engaging story. Take care Debbie x
Comment Written 13-Nov-2023
reply by the author on 13-Nov-2023
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I thank you so much again Debbie. I had to take out my program. And then I tried putting it back in again. And now it doesn't work the way it used to. And i'm just going to go and educate myself instead. I appreciate you pointing these out to me. Taking the time to do so, you're very important to me. I really appreciate all your kind words. I'm glad you like the pooches are spirit and king. Thank you again my friend. I really do wish to say thank you for all that you do!
Comment from Jim Wile
What a superb chapter, Lea, hearing about how one morally bankrupt individual can so totally destroy a family for generations to follow with one bright exception--you! You truly are an amazing person to have been able to escape all that, to see it all for what it was, and to not have been destroyed or corrupted by it when all the rest were. You should be proud of yourself.
It's also admirable that you are bringing it all to light now and sharing it not only with us but the rest of your family in hopes that it may help people to recognize dangerous behavior and do what they can to resist it and stop it.
It's nice to see you smiling, my friend. That's the first picture of yourself in which you are smiling. It shows how far you've come in your life. - Jim
reply by the author on 13-Nov-2023
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What a superb chapter, Lea, hearing about how one morally bankrupt individual can so totally destroy a family for generations to follow with one bright exception--you! You truly are an amazing person to have been able to escape all that, to see it all for what it was, and to not have been destroyed or corrupted by it when all the rest were. You should be proud of yourself.
It's also admirable that you are bringing it all to light now and sharing it not only with us but the rest of your family in hopes that it may help people to recognize dangerous behavior and do what they can to resist it and stop it.
It's nice to see you smiling, my friend. That's the first picture of yourself in which you are smiling. It shows how far you've come in your life. - Jim
Comment Written 13-Nov-2023
reply by the author on 13-Nov-2023
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Thank you again my friend following my email. I just wanted to say thank you one more time!
Comment from damommy
What a lovely picture. So, it all started with one mean, deceitful, promiscuous woman, the grandmother. Poor grandfather. Did he ever know some of the children weren't his? I hope not.
reply by the author on 13-Nov-2023
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What a lovely picture. So, it all started with one mean, deceitful, promiscuous woman, the grandmother. Poor grandfather. Did he ever know some of the children weren't his? I hope not.
Comment Written 13-Nov-2023
reply by the author on 13-Nov-2023
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Yes my Grandfather knew before they left Holland he chose to stay with her, and I did ask him why he said a couple of those children were his and those days. You don't leave your wife and children. I loved him lots he was so funny. Thank you so much again. I'm happy to see your review. Come up and appreciate them so much. I hope you are well and having a good evening!
Comment from Dolly'sPoems
This is a lovely picture of you and your dogs, you look happy Lea. My Father was beaten with a boiler stick by my Grandmother and she once raised her walking stick to my my children once! I was horrified. My Father grew up thinking violence was the way to bring up children. As you say, the book stopped with me, I was never violent to my children. This chapter of reflection and looking back at the history of your family is the only way we can understand the arrival at this point in time. It is a pity that your Mother after all you have suffered cannot come and apologise to you so that you can now be friends. Does she feel no remorse?
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She had (recreated) herself in Canada this persona of perfection.
Another fine chapter Lea, love Dolly x x x
reply by the author on 13-Nov-2023
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This is a lovely picture of you and your dogs, you look happy Lea. My Father was beaten with a boiler stick by my Grandmother and she once raised her walking stick to my my children once! I was horrified. My Father grew up thinking violence was the way to bring up children. As you say, the book stopped with me, I was never violent to my children. This chapter of reflection and looking back at the history of your family is the only way we can understand the arrival at this point in time. It is a pity that your Mother after all you have suffered cannot come and apologise to you so that you can now be friends. Does she feel no remorse?
Suggestion for this line:
She had (recreated) herself in Canada this persona of perfection.
Another fine chapter Lea, love Dolly x x x
Comment Written 13-Nov-2023
reply by the author on 13-Nov-2023
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Thank you darling so much. I appreciate this and your suggestion for Edit. I appreciate those most of all! It's terrible how violence can be generational like that. This kind of understanding are really hard to get but if we can forge through it, get to the meat of the matter. That's how I'm able to resolve it cause I know I'll never get an. D, I'm sorry for my my mother, she. If you ask her about what was done, she will minimize or say you didn't remember it right or that's not the way it happened. She never never admits to anything. She still tells so many lies to people about her own children it's bad. She cannot be a part of my life. And anyone who behaves that way cannot be. I hate saying that mariah's no choice she gives me no choice. Thank you again my friend. I appreciate you reading with me. I really do. It's nice to have you along on this journey thanks again!
