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Comment from Sanku
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A creek and a bridge for the children to cross to come to you! You are blessed in every sense ,Debbie
A lovely tribute to your daughter-in-law .She would love this and what a gift it is!

 Comment Written 10-Jan-2023

Comment from ExperiencingLiphe
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I love this because so many people talk about how horrible their in laws are. My husbands family likes me and mine likes him. We got lucky. I don't know if I'd say we're best friends but we don't have the tension like so many do. We don't dread going to each others places for things. It's a good thing to have going on. I'm so glad you have that. No one deserves to be in chaos all their life.

 Comment Written 06-Jan-2023


reply by the author on 07-Jan-2023
    Thank you for your lovely words about Mel and her poem. When my mother in-law was not the easiest person to get along with, I promised myself that some day I would be the best one ever. And I didn't forget, but she made it even easier. We are all blessed! Thank you my dear friend !
Comment from lyenochka
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Sounds like Jason found a beautiful wife who reminded him of his beautiful mom! Thanks for sharing about Mel and how she always wanted to keep a close connection with you!!!

 Comment Written 06-Jan-2023


reply by the author on 07-Jan-2023
    Thank you Helen, for your lovely words about Mel and her poem. When my mother in-law was not the easiest person to get along with, I promised myself that some day I would be the best one ever. And I didn't forget, but she made it even easier. We are all blessed! Thank you my dear friend !

    I know we talked some but I've been meaning to contact you after your dad's funeral, but wanted it to be at a time where we could talk a little more., Also I read your beautiful poem and am waiting to review it on Sunday. Are you home yet?
reply by lyenochka on 07-Jan-2023
    I thought I'd be home but our connecting flight is for TOMORROW! So we found a hotel for the night! Ugh. But still thanking the Lord we have a place to stay overnight...
Comment from Ulla
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Aw, Debi isn't this just two sweet. Two families connected by a wee bridge, and now so many years later still in use. Mel sounds like a beautiful person. I understand you love her so. Thanks for sharing this wonderful poem. Hugs, Ulla xx

 Comment Written 06-Jan-2023


reply by the author on 08-Jan-2023
    Dearest Ulla, So sorry this is so late. A lot going on right now that got a little overwhelming. I thank you for you kind review and comments for Melanie's poem.
    I sure appreciate it my friend
Comment from Debbie Pope
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Your poem made me feel good, Debi. You are blessed to have Mel in your life, but she, too, is blessed to have you. I bet this poem means everything to her.
I like the rhyme pattern. It would be good to extend that in the first couple of stanzas. That should be an easy fix with a few clicks on rhymezone.
Otherwise, I would not change a word.
Well done and very sweet. I envy your life.

 Comment Written 06-Jan-2023


reply by the author on 07-Jan-2023
    Hi Debbie, I thank you for this sweet and complimentary review and comments. I know exactly what you are saying. It is so hard when your mind is so stubbornly made up to get certain words in there and so you are forced to use near rhymes. I am such a rhymer and a stickler for meter that it kills me to have to do that. So I am going to challenge myself, at a little later date, while I am doing the clean up on some older poems that I want to add to my book of poetry to find a better way to use those stanzas and still get my message out. Right now, have just bit off a little bit more than I can chew. So thank you sweet friend for your lovely review and kind comments. I love great feedback and yours was great. Thanks again Debbie.
reply by Debbie Pope on 07-Jan-2023
    I have been on Fan Story a few years now. When I look at my earlier pieces, I want to edit them. I fully intend to do that. It's nice to see another editor amongst the members. I am never satisfied with my poems. Probably, after I edit them, I'll want to do it again.
reply by the author on 07-Jan-2023
    I have a recipe that I use for writing. Silly, but here it is:
    I make my dish (poem)
    Walk away and let it simmer.
    Come back, stir it , season it, and do this numerous times throughout a couple days.
    When I think it looks delicious. I serve it.

    However, no matter how many times I walk away and change and edit, after I get it posted, that is when I find the most things that I want to change for some reason.
    Every time. No matter how many times I stir and season a head of time. I think having it look so pretty with the picture, font and everything else perfect, that is when we get new ideas. Y'now??
reply by the author on 07-Jan-2023
    I have a recipe that I use for writing. Silly, but here it is:
    I make my dish (poem)
    Walk away and let it simmer.
    Come back, stir it , season it, and do this numerous times throughout a couple days.
    When I think it looks delicious. I serve it.

    However, no matter how many times I walk away and change and edit, after I get it posted, that is when I find the most things that I want to change for some reason.
    Every time. No matter how many times I stir and season a head of time. I think having it look so pretty with the picture, font and everything else perfect, that is when we get new ideas. Y'now??
reply by Debbie Pope on 07-Jan-2023
    You are just like me!! Glad I found you
reply by Debbie Pope on 07-Jan-2023
    Maybe it?s the name
reply by the author on 07-Jan-2023
    I feel the same way. You are so sweet and adorable too!
    I love getting closer friends a long the way! And I love my fellow "Little Debbies." 🤗
Comment from Joanne Gill-Maddick
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This is a beautifully written poem. It has a great flow and rhyme. We've been so close for many yearsSo I doubt this will be a surpriseI love you as if, you were my very own
A daughter, you are in my eyes. Well done. ð???

How sweet is that. Your grandchildren still use the bridge to visit grandma and grandpa.

 Comment Written 05-Jan-2023


reply by the author on 07-Jan-2023
    High Joanne! Strange how you resemble her in your dress. In fact her gown is much like yours and is strapless too. Is it any wonder why I adore you so!
    I thank you so very much! You are so very sweet, and I can't thank you enough for your kind comments regarding my Mel poem
    Much appreciated my dear friend!
reply by Joanne Gill-Maddick on 07-Jan-2023
    Your very welcome my friend 🙂
Comment from Michele Harber
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Debi, you have this very nasty habit of writing things that are so moving they make me cry (happy tears this time), and make me give you six-star ratings!

I absolutely love this poem, and the relationship you have with your daughter-in-law. That she would ask to build a bridge between your house and hers is amazing, and says so much about the two of you.

I hope I'm lucky enough to have that kind of relationship with my son-in-law if and when my now just 18-year-old daughter gets married. I had a contentious relationship with my in-laws when I married, but we got past it and today get along wonderfully. Although they have four sons, my husband and I managed to give them their only grandchild. We're hoping said grandchild will give us a grandchild somewhere down the road. Meanwhile, I'll live vicariously through the terrific relationship you seem to have with your grandsons. ð???

That aside, your poem is wonderful! The rhyme and flow are perfect, and the use of cursive complements the poem's smooth flow. I do hope you'll print this poem out, frame it and give it to your daughter-in-law. It will mean the world!

 Comment Written 05-Jan-2023


reply by the author on 07-Jan-2023
    Michelle, thank you so very much! Oh I do know what you mean. My mother in-law had such a bad attitude that she had a bit of narcissism going on even with her two daughters, but never said a foul word to my husband, her only son.
    I could actually write a book on her, because she could even be cruel to my children and nobody treats my children badly without seeing the mother bear in me come out. So I promised myself that I would be the world's best mother in-law someday and my sons in-law also agree. I only tell you about this to show a bright side that I thank God for now.

    She developed Alzheimer's but my husband's dad took care of at her at home. So the two sisters and I took turns giving my father in-law days off. She was in kind of a funny stage at that time, where we could put her on the pot and she would go. But she couldn't tell you. She talked and everything but wasn't the same woman. She hated drinking and smoking before, but would say Debi lets go out and have a smoke and a beer and then would belt out the tune, Roll out the Barrel. I had clotheslines in my front yard and had them full one day when she was here. She looked out the window, and said, hurry Debi come here, look they're having a party out there. Don't trust that guy in the striped shirt. Oh she wanted to dance and smile and even would reach over and give me a big kiss at times. Now I am crying as I tell you this, but it was then that I learned to love her. What a gift from God.

    However I still swore that I would be a better one than she was to me. Lol. But as the disease progressed she went from happy to sad and then mean to ok and then a vegetable. But even when I had to change her diaper and do things like that, I wasn't hostile, because I had seen a different side to her that gave me such a gift to carry with me always.

    Thank you for listening to me, Michelle. And I know you will make a wonderful mother in-law someday, but a fantastic grandma.

    You are so very sweet, and I can't thank you enough for your kind comments regarding my poem for Mel..
    Much appreciated my dear friend!
reply by Michele Harber on 07-Jan-2023
    You're very welcome, Debi.

    I'm sorry you had to go through all you did with your mother-in-law.

    I'd been warned, before I met her, that my mother-in-law lacked the capacity for empathy. Consequently, she told stories she shouldn't, and fomented problems between me and my sister-in-law (my husband's brother's wife) it took years to remedy. Thank goodness we have a good relationship now.

    To her credit, my mother-in-law did suggest she and I get together privately and talk things out, and that did make a huge difference in our relationship.

    She also started to mellow out eventually (probably since becoming a grandmother), and actually became pleasant and likable.

    Unfortunately, she's now begun the fall into dementia. My own mother is much farther in, but my mother-in-law is at the no short-term memory stage, and sundowning (when confusion sets in as evening begins). I keep missing the days when, even if we didn't always get along, she was a formidable opponent and could hold her own. It's so sad to see her as she is now.

    You never have to thank me for listening to you. That's what friends do, and I'm happy to call you a friend. Besides, the things you discuss are very interesting and, as you've seen, often very relatable to my own life.
reply by the author on 07-Jan-2023
    🤗😘
Comment from Eternal Muse
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This is such a beautiful poem about a family, and a paean to your daughter-in-law. She is gorgeous in the picture and they make a great couple with your son.

It's heartwarming, how you describe your first meeting with your daughter-in-law, the expectations, the wedding, and a few years later - two grandsons.

Excellent imagery and visuals. This is filled with love that warmed my heart. Thank you very much for sharing.

 Comment Written 05-Jan-2023


reply by the author on 08-Jan-2023
    He there and I thank you so very much for reading and reviewing my Mel poem. You are always so sweet and I appreciate your very kind comments.
    Thank you again my dear friend.
Comment from nomi338
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For some family, seeing them everyday is wonderful and normal. There are other family, you enjoy talking by phone much more than seeing them in person, why? Because phone conversations can be terminated at will. Thereby preserving family ties and preventing the laying on of angry hands. Your poem is lovely and I am overjoyed that you have such a wonderful relationship with your daughter in love.

 Comment Written 05-Jan-2023


reply by the author on 08-Jan-2023
    Nomi, thank you so very much for reading and reviewing my Mel poem. You are always so sweet and I appreciate your very kind comments.
    Thank you again my dear friend. .
Comment from Chrissy710
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Hi Debi how lovely both the poem and the image a gorgeous couple
How fortunate our sons pick the right one and we can enjoy the friendship with our daughter-in-laws
Cheers Chris

 Comment Written 05-Jan-2023


reply by the author on 08-Jan-2023
    Hi Chrissy, I thank you for your very sweet review and comments for my poem for our Melanie! I love that you are an awesome M-I-L and I bet you son is proud!
    Thanks again for you lovely words! I appreciate it so much, my dear friend!