Remembering Yesterday
Viewing comments for Chapter 151 "Coping With Change"A widow's journey into her relationship with her
21 total reviews
Comment from Elizabeth Emerald
I cringe to contemplate all you went through--sounds like a long haul--excellent narration--hospital drama and trials of dad's ongoing care are vividly rendered. Stunning chapter.
reply by the author on 12-Mar-2022
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I cringe to contemplate all you went through--sounds like a long haul--excellent narration--hospital drama and trials of dad's ongoing care are vividly rendered. Stunning chapter.
Comment Written 11-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 12-Mar-2022
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Thank you, Liz. It was a change for sure. I had to do some serious readjusting.
Beth
Comment from Brett Matthew West
In paragraph 4 wheel chair should be wheelchair.
Being a caregiver is not an easy thing to do, especially when they need to be stood up to so they do not bark "orders" like he did about getting off the phone.
That situation (being a caregiver) always seems to change the dynamics of life as well.
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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In paragraph 4 wheel chair should be wheelchair.
Being a caregiver is not an easy thing to do, especially when they need to be stood up to so they do not bark "orders" like he did about getting off the phone.
That situation (being a caregiver) always seems to change the dynamics of life as well.
Comment Written 09-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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Thank you Brett, I appreciate the review and comments. It was a big change for me.
Comment from jessizero
I can relate to this somewhat. My grandmother is 94 and needs someone with her most of the time. I was taking some of that responsibility before my doctor told me to stop. I am sorry for your losses. Best wishes.
reply by the author on 08-Mar-2022
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I can relate to this somewhat. My grandmother is 94 and needs someone with her most of the time. I was taking some of that responsibility before my doctor told me to stop. I am sorry for your losses. Best wishes.
Comment Written 08-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 08-Mar-2022
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Thank you for the review and comments. Sometimes the work of being a caregiver is too much. You can't let it ruin you own health.
Comment from Carolyn Dooley
Yes, this hit home. My job was a Nurse Assistant, and a private care giver.
When I think about how hard I worked, I tell you, I do not know how I did it. Yes, I was much younger, but it was hard work. You have a great story here. I know what you went through. Bless you.
reply by the author on 08-Mar-2022
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Yes, this hit home. My job was a Nurse Assistant, and a private care giver.
When I think about how hard I worked, I tell you, I do not know how I did it. Yes, I was much younger, but it was hard work. You have a great story here. I know what you went through. Bless you.
Comment Written 08-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 08-Mar-2022
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It is hard work. I don't think I could do it now but I was younger then and I didn't want to put him in a nursing home or assisted living until I had too. Thank you so much for the review.
Beth
Comment from Begin Again
Being a caretaker for a loved one makes us dig deeper than we have ever gone before... our family lost another member last week and his wife (my cousin) is hospitalized shutting down because she can't face the loss. I've been asked if I might bring her to my home. I love her beyond words (I have always talked every morning with her) but I don't know if I have the ability to do it again. Besides, Kaitlyn was here for two days, got expelled from school and threatened suicide. I told Corrie I couldn't be responsible for her anymore. After reading your story, I feel guilty for wanting to turn away. You are a very special person, Beth. Thank you for sharing.
Hugs, Carol
reply by the author on 08-Mar-2022
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Being a caretaker for a loved one makes us dig deeper than we have ever gone before... our family lost another member last week and his wife (my cousin) is hospitalized shutting down because she can't face the loss. I've been asked if I might bring her to my home. I love her beyond words (I have always talked every morning with her) but I don't know if I have the ability to do it again. Besides, Kaitlyn was here for two days, got expelled from school and threatened suicide. I told Corrie I couldn't be responsible for her anymore. After reading your story, I feel guilty for wanting to turn away. You are a very special person, Beth. Thank you for sharing.
Hugs, Carol
Comment Written 08-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 08-Mar-2022
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Thanks for a great review. You've had a lot of loss in your life and you gone beyond the call of duty for your family. Don't ruin your u own health. Kaitlyn has some problems that calls for more than yocan provide. I hope she get the help she needs. Don't feel guilty about anything. I felt enough quilt for both of us when my Mom died.
Beth
Comment from lyenochka
Wow, what a difficult time! I don't think I could do what you did for your father. Even my mom draws the line of caregiving with diapers. But like your mom, my mom is the main caregiver and my dad is an ill-tempered person that no one likes to be around so I don't know how you handled that with so much grace! It sounds too hard. I feel so sad for your mom, working so hard outside and then coming in to cook lunch and having that heart attack. Devoted women are heroic.
Minor nit:
When, I told him, (When I told him ) no commas
reply by the author on 08-Mar-2022
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Wow, what a difficult time! I don't think I could do what you did for your father. Even my mom draws the line of caregiving with diapers. But like your mom, my mom is the main caregiver and my dad is an ill-tempered person that no one likes to be around so I don't know how you handled that with so much grace! It sounds too hard. I feel so sad for your mom, working so hard outside and then coming in to cook lunch and having that heart attack. Devoted women are heroic.
Minor nit:
When, I told him, (When I told him ) no commas
Comment Written 08-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 08-Mar-2022
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Thank you Helen, Yes I think Mom deserved a better life that she had, but she was a pretty upbeat person. As for me, I take life one day at a time and find we are capable of doing things we never thought we could do, and it isn't as horrible as we would imagine.
Beth
Comment from Carol Hillebrenner
That is a rough time in your life. Our Mom kept sneaking away from my sister and me, so we had to put her in a home. She lived there comfortably for six more years. I do understand how difficult your life became with this change. You write your story very clearly without expecting sympathy.
reply by the author on 08-Mar-2022
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That is a rough time in your life. Our Mom kept sneaking away from my sister and me, so we had to put her in a home. She lived there comfortably for six more years. I do understand how difficult your life became with this change. You write your story very clearly without expecting sympathy.
Comment Written 08-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 08-Mar-2022
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Thank you Carol. I appreciate the review and comments. No, I don't want or expect sympathy. Most people go through things like this. I just want to have a record of my life, mostly for my family but I love it when others are interested.
Beth
Comment from Judy Lawless
This is a sad chapter in your life, Beth. Taking care of aging parents is never easy, and I seem to often be the one to step in with my family. You did a good job to take it on, and telling us about it.
reply by the author on 07-Mar-2022
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This is a sad chapter in your life, Beth. Taking care of aging parents is never easy, and I seem to often be the one to step in with my family. You did a good job to take it on, and telling us about it.
Comment Written 07-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 07-Mar-2022
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I'm an only child and since my mom took care of everyone so willing, I felt obligated to do it too. Thanks so much for a great review.
Aren't you the one with the Birthday today. If so, Happy Birthday. I hope you are having a good one.
Beth
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You're welcome, Beth. Yes, I'm the one with the birthday today. Thanks so much for your best wishes. It's been a good day.
Comment from Jannypan (Jan)
What a sad, sad chapter, Beth. You did a great job expressing your thoughts and feelings. My mother had to do pretty much to same as you since she was an only child. Also, my dad was an only child and he had to do pretty much the same when his mother fell and broke her leg. Care givers are God's angels--remember that. You did above and beyond with the loving care you gave to your mom. Your lines progressed well to tell this sad, but important, tale.
Respectfully, Jan
reply by the author on 07-Mar-2022
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What a sad, sad chapter, Beth. You did a great job expressing your thoughts and feelings. My mother had to do pretty much to same as you since she was an only child. Also, my dad was an only child and he had to do pretty much the same when his mother fell and broke her leg. Care givers are God's angels--remember that. You did above and beyond with the loving care you gave to your mom. Your lines progressed well to tell this sad, but important, tale.
Respectfully, Jan
Comment Written 07-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 07-Mar-2022
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Thank you Jan, It was hard to write this because I don't like to write sad things. When you are an only child, it falls on you alone to make decisions. I wondered when you said both your mom and dad were only children how that worked out. I've always heard it doesn't work well, but I've had a lot of friends who are only children, and I had no problem getting along with them.
Beth
Comment from Sankey
This was an interesting read. I am sorry I have missed a lot of this book and I may try and get back some. Much has happened here and I may get back and write about it, as I have time. One little spag. When, I told him[,] he would be coming
reply by the author on 07-Mar-2022
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This was an interesting read. I am sorry I have missed a lot of this book and I may try and get back some. Much has happened here and I may get back and write about it, as I have time. One little spag. When, I told him[,] he would be coming
Comment Written 07-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 07-Mar-2022
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Thank you so much. I've been missing you. I know you had the surgery on your head and now you're coping with the healing. I trust all is well. Thanks for all the stars.
Beth
