Growing up in a Shadow
and into the light26 total reviews
Comment from Bill Schott
This piece, Growing Up in a Shadow, is absent of any reason or examples of how the person here, which seems to be you, was living in the shadow of others.
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This piece, Growing Up in a Shadow, is absent of any reason or examples of how the person here, which seems to be you, was living in the shadow of others.
Comment Written 14-Feb-2022
Comment from Gypsy Blue Rose
Growing up in a Shadow
by Jesse James Doty
Well written, engaging and easy to follow.
I know what you mean, Jesse. It's too bad that is taken me so long to realize I'm my worst enemy. When I find a man, he turns out to be the wrong man. The answer is My relationship with my father. My father kick me out of my step mother and his house when I was 15 years old so I keep looking for the men like him.
I have given up on men and I am single now, and that's fine. I made peace with it.
After years of looking for the right religion I finally I found one that fills my needs and helps me deal with suffering. It's bhuddism. Many people deal with their kind of suffering.
You're not alone. We have find a kind community in fanstory and we can make good friends. Karenina is a wonderful lady and very empathetic.
If you ever need to vent, send me a message. I'm a good listener.
Extra Gypsy hugs :)
reply by the author on 20-Feb-2022
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Growing up in a Shadow
by Jesse James Doty
Well written, engaging and easy to follow.
I know what you mean, Jesse. It's too bad that is taken me so long to realize I'm my worst enemy. When I find a man, he turns out to be the wrong man. The answer is My relationship with my father. My father kick me out of my step mother and his house when I was 15 years old so I keep looking for the men like him.
I have given up on men and I am single now, and that's fine. I made peace with it.
After years of looking for the right religion I finally I found one that fills my needs and helps me deal with suffering. It's bhuddism. Many people deal with their kind of suffering.
You're not alone. We have find a kind community in fanstory and we can make good friends. Karenina is a wonderful lady and very empathetic.
If you ever need to vent, send me a message. I'm a good listener.
Extra Gypsy hugs :)
Comment Written 14-Feb-2022
reply by the author on 20-Feb-2022
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Thanks so much, Gypsy, for this illuminating review all about your father and stepmother who kicked you out of the house when you were 15 years old. That must have been very difficult for you. I am happy you have found yourself and enjoy the Buddist religion as it helps you with your suffering. We have both found people who care in the fan story community and Karenina is one of them for me. Thanks for the great review and extra stars, my friend I might take you up on the listening ear sometime!
Jesse
Comment from Sandra Stoner-Mitchell
I remember those feelings, and it took many years before I could stand up for myself. I still have problems with that. We are what we want to be. That's what I've been told. I just wish I'd learned that years ago.
Choose your caregivers, Jesse, don't let them fob you off with people you won't like. This is your life and it's you who you look out for! I hope you get them, my friend. Let us know. :)) Sandra xx
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reply by the author on 25-Feb-2022
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I remember those feelings, and it took many years before I could stand up for myself. I still have problems with that. We are what we want to be. That's what I've been told. I just wish I'd learned that years ago.
Choose your caregivers, Jesse, don't let them fob you off with people you won't like. This is your life and it's you who you look out for! I hope you get them, my friend. Let us know. :)) Sandra xx
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Comment Written 14-Feb-2022
reply by the author on 25-Feb-2022
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Thanks, Sandra, I will let you know as soon as I find the one or two caregivers I need to be able to let David retire as quickly as possible. This is a hard task and I do not take it lightly.
I understand that you relate to my situation and see that we still both have
problems sticking up for ourselves.
Have a caring and gentle day,
Jesse
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I pray you'll succeed and you get the right caregivers. Warm hugs, my friend. xx
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Thanks, Sandra. I appreciate the prayers and warm hugs.
Jesse
Comment from barbara.wilkey
I agree with Karenina, you need to step away from the shadow and I know you can do it. It's possible. Thank you for sharing this journey with us. We will pray and cheer your achievements.
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reply by the author on 21-Feb-2022
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I agree with Karenina, you need to step away from the shadow and I know you can do it. It's possible. Thank you for sharing this journey with us. We will pray and cheer your achievements.
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Comment Written 14-Feb-2022
reply by the author on 21-Feb-2022
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Thanks, Barbara, for your inspiring review. I will hear your cheers as I continue to progress toward my achievements. Thanks for caring and for being there.
Jesse
Comment from LateBloomer
Hello JJ, profound, poignant, heartfelt writing. It's difficult when One lives in/under the shadows of others. However, it seems that you have come to terms with many things and you plan to forge ahead. The details in your story show growth, understanding, and determination, and that's a good place to be. Of special note:
I need to realize and accept that I am doing this all on my own and I will have to suffer the consequences.
(Acceptance can be a beautiful thing, and the willingness to accept consequences shows maturity. It also makes us stop and think before we act which is usually a good thing.)
J, I wrote a poem about shadows a while ago. Your story made me think of it. I'm enclosing the link. You may have to copy and paste it. No review is necessary. I think you may be able to relate to it.
https://www.fanstory.com/displaystory.jsp?hd=1&id=788545
"Your past does not equal your future." ~ Anthony Robbins
JJ, today you wrote something brave, and whenever someone writes something brave, if I have a Sixer, they get it. Six stars for you.
LateBloomer
reply by the author on 20-Feb-2022
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Hello JJ, profound, poignant, heartfelt writing. It's difficult when One lives in/under the shadows of others. However, it seems that you have come to terms with many things and you plan to forge ahead. The details in your story show growth, understanding, and determination, and that's a good place to be. Of special note:
I need to realize and accept that I am doing this all on my own and I will have to suffer the consequences.
(Acceptance can be a beautiful thing, and the willingness to accept consequences shows maturity. It also makes us stop and think before we act which is usually a good thing.)
J, I wrote a poem about shadows a while ago. Your story made me think of it. I'm enclosing the link. You may have to copy and paste it. No review is necessary. I think you may be able to relate to it.
https://www.fanstory.com/displaystory.jsp?hd=1&id=788545
"Your past does not equal your future." ~ Anthony Robbins
JJ, today you wrote something brave, and whenever someone writes something brave, if I have a Sixer, they get it. Six stars for you.
LateBloomer
Comment Written 14-Feb-2022
reply by the author on 20-Feb-2022
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Thanks so much, LB! I am sorry I didn't get back to you sooner but life intervened. I was and am at a loss for words your review is so powerful and tells me a lot of things about myself. Thanks for telling me I am brave...I hadn't looked at it that way. Your sparkly stars and warm review fill my heart with gratitude.
Have a wonderful upcoming week,
Jesse
Comment from Janice Canerdy
My younger sister lives in an assisted living facility. The employees do a good job most of the time, but sometimes they get a bit negligent. My sister doesn't "like to bother them"! I have to remind her that they are there FOR HER. Your deeply personal essay has moved me to tears--then to a big smile. I can't begin to wrap my head around the behavior of people who demean and dehumanize a young person (instead of TEACHING him!)--then criticize him for not knowing what to do!! I'm so sorry for what you've been through--but happy for you because of the determination you have expressed!
reply by the author on 20-Feb-2022
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My younger sister lives in an assisted living facility. The employees do a good job most of the time, but sometimes they get a bit negligent. My sister doesn't "like to bother them"! I have to remind her that they are there FOR HER. Your deeply personal essay has moved me to tears--then to a big smile. I can't begin to wrap my head around the behavior of people who demean and dehumanize a young person (instead of TEACHING him!)--then criticize him for not knowing what to do!! I'm so sorry for what you've been through--but happy for you because of the determination you have expressed!
Comment Written 14-Feb-2022
reply by the author on 20-Feb-2022
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Thank you for sharing your story about your sister. I know of what you speak and I can only say we all must stand up for ourselves and show the determination involved in giving ourselves a break. Yes, I should've been taught but now I have the opportunity to become who I was meant to be! There is no greater gift than self-determination!
Thanks for the exceptional rating and review, Janice, I am moved by this truly.
Have a marvelous upcoming week,
Jesse
