Chasing the Elusive Dream
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Comment from Roxanna Andrews
How heartbreaking. I'm so sorry. You did a wonderful job of writing your feelings. It must have been very hard. I'm glad you were able to move on, despite such heartache. The Lord bless you. Rox
reply by the author on 07-Aug-2013
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How heartbreaking. I'm so sorry. You did a wonderful job of writing your feelings. It must have been very hard. I'm glad you were able to move on, despite such heartache. The Lord bless you. Rox
Comment Written 06-Aug-2013
reply by the author on 07-Aug-2013
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Thank you so much Roxannna, I really appreciate the review and your kind comments. It was hard but the pain didn't last forever. God did bless us with four other children.
Beth
Comment from Janelle
Beth, this is such a poignant, moving story, of the unimaginable pain of losing your first child, especially in such circumstances. It is beautifully written, with a deeply emotional core, yet displays great restraint in explaining the course of events. I was very moved when I read it because I could identify with your story. My daughter had exactly the same reaction to her first triple antigen vaccination, but with a less tragic outcome. She screamed for hours and I was so distraught. I had two sons, ten years older than her and they had not had any such reaction, so I was so confused about her violent one. Then a doctor told me that 1:100,000 babies were brain damaged after this vaccination.
There is a huge debate happening here in Australia about people not vaccinating their children, with the suggestion being that their children should be denied access to kinder and school if they can't prove they've been vaccinated.
People are now questioning the safety of these vaccines and doing the research. I myself wonder how 1 in 100,000 kids being brain damaged by having it, is an acceptable risk to those parents who draw the short straw?
It's a quandary and your story highlights that perhaps there needs to be more research undertaken to ensure this isn't such a risk.
I see from your profile notes that your are a mother of four and a grandparent as well, but as can be seen in your story, the loss of Susan is still as raw as it was when you lost her so long ago. Thank you for sharing your story. It is very well written. (I was having trouble reading the first part of the first paragraph because the photo was covering it. Is that a problem with my computer or a glitch in the posting?)
reply by the author on 07-Aug-2013
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Beth, this is such a poignant, moving story, of the unimaginable pain of losing your first child, especially in such circumstances. It is beautifully written, with a deeply emotional core, yet displays great restraint in explaining the course of events. I was very moved when I read it because I could identify with your story. My daughter had exactly the same reaction to her first triple antigen vaccination, but with a less tragic outcome. She screamed for hours and I was so distraught. I had two sons, ten years older than her and they had not had any such reaction, so I was so confused about her violent one. Then a doctor told me that 1:100,000 babies were brain damaged after this vaccination.
There is a huge debate happening here in Australia about people not vaccinating their children, with the suggestion being that their children should be denied access to kinder and school if they can't prove they've been vaccinated.
People are now questioning the safety of these vaccines and doing the research. I myself wonder how 1 in 100,000 kids being brain damaged by having it, is an acceptable risk to those parents who draw the short straw?
It's a quandary and your story highlights that perhaps there needs to be more research undertaken to ensure this isn't such a risk.
I see from your profile notes that your are a mother of four and a grandparent as well, but as can be seen in your story, the loss of Susan is still as raw as it was when you lost her so long ago. Thank you for sharing your story. It is very well written. (I was having trouble reading the first part of the first paragraph because the photo was covering it. Is that a problem with my computer or a glitch in the posting?)
Comment Written 06-Aug-2013
reply by the author on 07-Aug-2013
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Thank you so much Janelle, I appreciate the review and really liked reading your extensive remarks and hearing of your experience with that vaccine. I think one in a 100,000 is way to conservative an estimate. While living in that relative small city, I had a girlfriend who also lost her baby right after getting the vaccine. They called her loss crib death. Another man, I later worked with, also lost his baby at two months right after getting the vaccine. It was also declared crib death. His baby and mine died within weeks of each other. In all three cases it was the same clinic and the same year. My doctor never would admit the vaccine had caused the death, but the autopsy proved otherwise. In later years, the vaccine company was held responsible in a class action suit for those who had concrete proof. Many in our state had brain damaged children and babies who had died. The company who developed the vaccine made cases so difficult to file and to prove that few even knew about it. I was one of the lucky ones. My other children didn't get the vaccine. Neither did my grandchildren. Schools here make in mandatory, but there were ways to get around it.
Beth
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I'm so sorry for your loss Beth and hope that telling Susan's story has been cathartic for you. I look forward to reading more of your writing. (I've just returned to FS after a couple of years, and am looking forward to doing lots of reviewing and some posting). :)
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You asked me earlier if the picture was covering my writing. It isn't on my computer. I just posted another one. I hope you won't have a problem with it as well.
Beth
Comment from SaluteDobby
I am so sorry for your loss, Beth. I can't even imagine how hard it must have been for you. I am glad you had other kids and that this tragedy did not destroy your marriage.
reply by the author on 07-Aug-2013
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I am so sorry for your loss, Beth. I can't even imagine how hard it must have been for you. I am glad you had other kids and that this tragedy did not destroy your marriage.
Comment Written 06-Aug-2013
reply by the author on 07-Aug-2013
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Thank you so much for the review and kind comments. Yes having more children went a long way to erasing the pain. We seldom think about it any more. I have many friend who've lost older children, which has to be much harder.
Beth
Comment from Evelyn Fort Stewart
Oh I am so sorry, I know losing a child is one of the worst pains a parent can experience. i lost my sone at 56 to a sudden heart attack but the grief was tremendous. Well-written story. God loves you and I do too.
reply by the author on 06-Aug-2013
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Oh I am so sorry, I know losing a child is one of the worst pains a parent can experience. i lost my sone at 56 to a sudden heart attack but the grief was tremendous. Well-written story. God loves you and I do too.
Comment Written 06-Aug-2013
reply by the author on 06-Aug-2013
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Thank you so much Evelyn, I really appreciate the review and comments and I'm so sorry you lost your son. I think it would be much worse to lose and older child. With a baby, they haven't really shown a lot of personality at that poing.
Beth
Comment from writerwish
This is such as sad but very well written and sumarized portion of your life. I am sorry for your loss and happy to hear of the upcoming birth. I think an expected death one can prepare for emotionally, bit a child's death is never expected. Glad you both are doing okay.
reply by the author on 06-Aug-2013
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This is such as sad but very well written and sumarized portion of your life. I am sorry for your loss and happy to hear of the upcoming birth. I think an expected death one can prepare for emotionally, bit a child's death is never expected. Glad you both are doing okay.
Comment Written 06-Aug-2013
reply by the author on 06-Aug-2013
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Thank you so much for the review and your comments on this. It happened a long time ago, but writing about it was tougher than I expected it to be.
Beth
Comment from Spitfire
This must have been a hard post to write. What a bummer when a vaccination is the cause. How ironic that you used one of the cemetery plots! Consided this a tribute to your Susan, who for whatever reasons, decided to go back to heaven. Who knows, her soul may have returned in a later pregnancy.
A poignant story and well-written.
reply by the author on 05-Aug-2013
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This must have been a hard post to write. What a bummer when a vaccination is the cause. How ironic that you used one of the cemetery plots! Consided this a tribute to your Susan, who for whatever reasons, decided to go back to heaven. Who knows, her soul may have returned in a later pregnancy.
A poignant story and well-written.
Comment Written 05-Aug-2013
reply by the author on 05-Aug-2013
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Thank you so much for the review and comments. You are right. It was a very hard chapter to write because I sort of had to relive the experience. I like to keep things light and humorous but I couldn't with this chapter.
I believe one day I will see her again.
Beth
Comment from AprilShower
Beth, I understand the kind of grief you spoke of. That's the way I grieve, also. I only cry when I'm alone and no one can see me. I did cry when I learned from the doctor that my father's cancer was terminal and he had only a few months to live, but I did not cry at his funeral.
I felt like crying when I read this chapter, though.
It had to be hard to write this even though this probably happened a long time ago.
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reply by the author on 05-Aug-2013
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Beth, I understand the kind of grief you spoke of. That's the way I grieve, also. I only cry when I'm alone and no one can see me. I did cry when I learned from the doctor that my father's cancer was terminal and he had only a few months to live, but I did not cry at his funeral.
I felt like crying when I read this chapter, though.
It had to be hard to write this even though this probably happened a long time ago.
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Comment Written 05-Aug-2013
reply by the author on 05-Aug-2013
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April, Thank you so much for the six star rating and you comments. I'm finding out I'm not alone in the way I grieve. Thank you also for pointing out the s on tomorrow. I did find in hard to write. I like to keep things upbeat and humorous but I couldn't with this chapter.
Beth
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You're welcome, Beth.
Comment from Jose Saic
Is an interesting story of a lady telling us about the subject of death : memories about the relation with grandparents and other parents of her husband that had died.
Also this young couple were practically convinced to buy a cementery lots. Something that later they regret.
On the other part the story she tells us in an excellent and dramatic way about all what happen to a young woman when she is pregnant. The delivery is described as normal, no shoutings from this brave mother, and a beautiful healthy girl of more than eight pounds arrived. The couple was very happy but after a vaccination of the little baby complications appeared and Susan Renee died. The moments of anguish are describe.
But they try to recove from this tragedy and restart their life looking forward a new child
Is an interesting and sad story, probably real, but gives us hope.
Congratulations to the author
reply by the author on 05-Aug-2013
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Is an interesting story of a lady telling us about the subject of death : memories about the relation with grandparents and other parents of her husband that had died.
Also this young couple were practically convinced to buy a cementery lots. Something that later they regret.
On the other part the story she tells us in an excellent and dramatic way about all what happen to a young woman when she is pregnant. The delivery is described as normal, no shoutings from this brave mother, and a beautiful healthy girl of more than eight pounds arrived. The couple was very happy but after a vaccination of the little baby complications appeared and Susan Renee died. The moments of anguish are describe.
But they try to recove from this tragedy and restart their life looking forward a new child
Is an interesting and sad story, probably real, but gives us hope.
Congratulations to the author
Comment Written 05-Aug-2013
reply by the author on 05-Aug-2013
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Thank you so much for the six star rating and the nice comments.
It is my true story. All of it happened just as I wrote it.
I appreciate you reading it.
Beth
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You are welcome, this story gives me memories of my sister and her first child. It is very well written in each part of the reality you lived.
Comment from Naba-man
The writing is heartfelt and articulated well. However, it ended a tad abruptly and without being capped the way it deserves to be capped. Also, some minor misspellings and grammar issues need correcting (ex., "dimention" should be "dimension'), and there are a few sentences which I would rephrase (for better flow and clarity). But overall, an excellent piece of writing!
reply by the author on 05-Aug-2013
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The writing is heartfelt and articulated well. However, it ended a tad abruptly and without being capped the way it deserves to be capped. Also, some minor misspellings and grammar issues need correcting (ex., "dimention" should be "dimension'), and there are a few sentences which I would rephrase (for better flow and clarity). But overall, an excellent piece of writing!
Comment Written 05-Aug-2013
reply by the author on 05-Aug-2013
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Thank you so much for the review. I've fixed a number of typo and spelling errors, dimension being one of them but I will work on the abrupt ending. I appreciate your reading this and the suggestions.
Beth
Comment from adewpearl
who was ten years older than her - I would just drop the than her
an salesman came by - a salesman
She weight 8 pounds - weighed
so dying was no big problem - drying
The monitor allerted - alerted
My Mother and Dad drove - mother and dad
transported to another dimention - dimension
suffer mental damage from the vaccine - mental?
What a tragic time in your lives - I am so very sorry for your loss. You tell this story in a very realistic and moving way. Brooke
reply by the author on 05-Aug-2013
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who was ten years older than her - I would just drop the than her
an salesman came by - a salesman
She weight 8 pounds - weighed
so dying was no big problem - drying
The monitor allerted - alerted
My Mother and Dad drove - mother and dad
transported to another dimention - dimension
suffer mental damage from the vaccine - mental?
What a tragic time in your lives - I am so very sorry for your loss. You tell this story in a very realistic and moving way. Brooke
Comment Written 05-Aug-2013
reply by the author on 05-Aug-2013
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Brooke, I can't believe I did such a poor job of editing this. Thank you so much for the review and comments. I especially appreciate the help. Believe it or not. I did spell check it twice. I didn't enjoy writing this chapter, but it happened and it needed to be included. We did get past it but I've known some who didn't.
Beth
