When Blood Collides
Viewing comments for Chapter 57 "Whatever Happened to Mom's Sister? "A family's love is tested.
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Comment from alexisleech
It's good that you got on with your cousin, and that you seemed to share mutual respect. As people get older, they can become bitter and spiteful, and it sounds as though that was the case with your aunt.
I'm surprised it took a year for things to go pear shaped at Dee's house!
Alexis xxx
reply by the author on 22-Sep-2015
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It's good that you got on with your cousin, and that you seemed to share mutual respect. As people get older, they can become bitter and spiteful, and it sounds as though that was the case with your aunt.
I'm surprised it took a year for things to go pear shaped at Dee's house!
Alexis xxx
Comment Written 22-Sep-2015
reply by the author on 22-Sep-2015
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Not sure I understand your last line about pear shaped.
Wonder why old people turn spiteful. Guess life didn't turn out as well as they expected. Or it could be the aches and pains that come with the territory. LOL
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Sorry, it's an English expression for when things go wrong, although I have no idea why!
Comment from padumachitta
HI...but not a moot point for you, cause it still hurts, at least it reads like it...
dang families...at least friends you choose...relatives, wel...
and those two reconciled but not under the best conditions...
anyway, you moved to the land of sun...
padumachitta
reply by the author on 22-Sep-2015
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HI...but not a moot point for you, cause it still hurts, at least it reads like it...
dang families...at least friends you choose...relatives, wel...
and those two reconciled but not under the best conditions...
anyway, you moved to the land of sun...
padumachitta
Comment Written 22-Sep-2015
reply by the author on 22-Sep-2015
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I've lived in Florida for forty-one years now and still love it. My relatives are scattered all over America. The closest one is a cousin who just moved to Tennessee. Last time I saw her was fifteen years. Hey, that's the way I like it, although I wish my daughter lived closer.
Comment from joann r romei
There seems to be a trend here with the women in the family, ambitious, creative, intelligent and unfortunately competitive, no errors noted and want to hear more about your daughter and you.
reply by the author on 22-Sep-2015
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There seems to be a trend here with the women in the family, ambitious, creative, intelligent and unfortunately competitive, no errors noted and want to hear more about your daughter and you.
Comment Written 22-Sep-2015
reply by the author on 22-Sep-2015
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Well, even competitive can be good if it doesn't mean stepping on someone else in the family. Nichole will be in the next post.
Comment from Louise Michelle
Hey Shari, Doctors are more important than relatives when we start getting on in years.
Thanks for writing out the symptoms, something I wasn't aware of and should keep in mind.
Oh, wow, I'd work as a maid for Jerry Lewis! I would name drop too, haha. That is so fascinating. This is an interesting chapter. Hugs, Lou
reply by the author on 22-Sep-2015
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Hey Shari, Doctors are more important than relatives when we start getting on in years.
Thanks for writing out the symptoms, something I wasn't aware of and should keep in mind.
Oh, wow, I'd work as a maid for Jerry Lewis! I would name drop too, haha. That is so fascinating. This is an interesting chapter. Hugs, Lou
Comment Written 22-Sep-2015
reply by the author on 22-Sep-2015
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Yeap, I was impressed too and annoyed that Dee wouldn't tell Dani about Nichole. I was hoping someone would find the diabetic information useful.
Comment from IndianaIrish
A great chapter with lots of information about events, Shari. How did you like your new home? Did you have a retirement party or gathering before you moved? I made a couple of notes during my read...
why didn't my doctor see it?["]
Even though she had connections, my aunt wouldn't help Nichole. Since starlets still consulted her by phone and Dani visited, Mom suggested, "Maybe you could mention your niece wants to get into the movies?"
"I don't want to take advantage of Dani's friendship," Dee's strict teacher voice came through. Mom knew it was just the jealous streak in her sister.
She didn't remind her of the time she and Dad gave Dee free room and board. Her sister had used up her savings when she moved from California to live with a man who owned a houseboat in Alaska.(this section confused me, Shari. Your mom had passed away when she moved back to LA, right? I don't understand why her comments are here?)
This was the Aunt I remembered, (I thought aunt was only capitalized when used with the name, like Aunt Mary?)
Smiles,
Karyn :-)
reply by the author on 22-Sep-2015
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A great chapter with lots of information about events, Shari. How did you like your new home? Did you have a retirement party or gathering before you moved? I made a couple of notes during my read...
why didn't my doctor see it?["]
Even though she had connections, my aunt wouldn't help Nichole. Since starlets still consulted her by phone and Dani visited, Mom suggested, "Maybe you could mention your niece wants to get into the movies?"
"I don't want to take advantage of Dani's friendship," Dee's strict teacher voice came through. Mom knew it was just the jealous streak in her sister.
She didn't remind her of the time she and Dad gave Dee free room and board. Her sister had used up her savings when she moved from California to live with a man who owned a houseboat in Alaska.(this section confused me, Shari. Your mom had passed away when she moved back to LA, right? I don't understand why her comments are here?)
This was the Aunt I remembered, (I thought aunt was only capitalized when used with the name, like Aunt Mary?)
Smiles,
Karyn :-)
Comment Written 22-Sep-2015
reply by the author on 22-Sep-2015
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You're the second to question the caps on Aunt. I checked online and the site gave several examples such as "Mom, Dad wants to talk to you." Anyway, I just changed the word to "woman" to dispel any doubts.
I reworded the other paragraph to make it clearer, I hope.
Comment from ProSongwriter
HI Shari ... Me again!
Wow, so much angst and hostility in the broader reaches of your family. We have some of that in my family too.
At least there was some peace made later on. I guess that's some consolation.
We're not a visiting family. There many tines when there were years between visits of siblings.
Another interesting chapter. I try not to miss any of your posts ... they;re always entertaining! Love your straight-forward writing style. Wishing you and Frank the best ...
Alan
reply by the author on 22-Sep-2015
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HI Shari ... Me again!
Wow, so much angst and hostility in the broader reaches of your family. We have some of that in my family too.
At least there was some peace made later on. I guess that's some consolation.
We're not a visiting family. There many tines when there were years between visits of siblings.
Another interesting chapter. I try not to miss any of your posts ... they;re always entertaining! Love your straight-forward writing style. Wishing you and Frank the best ...
Alan
Comment Written 22-Sep-2015
reply by the author on 22-Sep-2015
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We're not a visiting family either. I have nothing in common with my relatives. They all live far away too. That's a good thing. :-)
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Hi!
Computer all fixed but have been very ill. I've been in a doctor's office more than my own home recently!
Agreed with you ... the more distant the relastives, the better for all concerned! Best to you and Frank .....
Alan
Comment from abbasjoy
Family dynamics never seem to go away. In the best regulated families, always some form of drama. Some families more than others. It's funny, many people don't think of their family as dysfunctional, they always point a finger at other families in using that term. Tension and unforgiveness are the order of the day, in some families, but I am glad to see grudges aren't being held now, in this family. Moot is good.
Well done.
reply by the author on 21-Sep-2015
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Family dynamics never seem to go away. In the best regulated families, always some form of drama. Some families more than others. It's funny, many people don't think of their family as dysfunctional, they always point a finger at other families in using that term. Tension and unforgiveness are the order of the day, in some families, but I am glad to see grudges aren't being held now, in this family. Moot is good.
Well done.
Comment Written 21-Sep-2015
reply by the author on 21-Sep-2015
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I never thought of my family as dysfunctional, but my daughter was convinced we were and that was the source of our dislike for the man she chose to marry. I don't hold grudges. My sister Barb did. You'll find out about that later. Thanks for reading and the excellent rating.
Comment from Phyllis Stewart
Of course they never apologized. To this day, they think they were right. It takes a lot to change one's views after a certain age. Dee was a fool for ignoring her insulin shots. Forget how many folks thrive on making enemies. People can be their own worst enemies!
reply by the author on 21-Sep-2015
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Of course they never apologized. To this day, they think they were right. It takes a lot to change one's views after a certain age. Dee was a fool for ignoring her insulin shots. Forget how many folks thrive on making enemies. People can be their own worst enemies!
Comment Written 21-Sep-2015
reply by the author on 21-Sep-2015
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I hate to say it, but my hubby is one to hold a grudge for years against those who bruise his ego. I keep telling him "Let it go." He's still angry that Dee and Anne told Mom she had to move out of our house.
Comment from Serendipity!
Relatives! What a challenge they can be! You can pick your friends, they say, but not your relatives, but it WAS a so called friend that treated us more treacherously that a relative ever had. I think even at their worst many family members feel a loyal streak that makes them put up at least to a certain extent with those of the same blood.
reply by the author on 21-Sep-2015
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Relatives! What a challenge they can be! You can pick your friends, they say, but not your relatives, but it WAS a so called friend that treated us more treacherously that a relative ever had. I think even at their worst many family members feel a loyal streak that makes them put up at least to a certain extent with those of the same blood.
Comment Written 21-Sep-2015
reply by the author on 21-Sep-2015
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Blood is thicker than water, they say. Sounds as if you have a story of your own about deceit and betrayal. Hope you'll write it.
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Mine was an eye-popping experience! She would have thrown us into the swine pen, felt like, because we helped her ex-friend.
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Mine was an eye-popping experience! She would have thrown us into the swine pen, felt like, because we helped her ex-friend.
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Ah, I get the picture. A betrayal of sorts.
Comment from robyn corum
Very interesting chapter. You continue to keep me glued that whole way!
1.) The only people I'd miss would be my doctor and dentist.
--> and those are important relationships! *smile*
--> and - did you keep journals on all this? How on earth do you remember it all?
2.) Anne: You didn't wonder why (you) were thirsty all the time?
3.) Dee: That's because I have to go (D- 'up and') down those damn stairs thirty times a day to get something to eat!
4.) This was the (aunt) I remembered, not the witch at the nursing home,
--> and two more corrections in the following sentences
5.) Two (months) later, a supervisor at the home called to say Mother had passed away.
6.) She had reached ninety.(")
--> I realize you're probably (almost certainly) talking about her age here, but since you were just discussing the fact that her weight is dropping like crazy and was down to 95, you might want to make it CLEAR that this IS age.
7.) I hadn't exchanged cards, letters or phone calls (from? or 'with'?) my aunt since the wake
Hope this helps a bit! Let me know when you edit and I'll re-rate!
reply by the author on 21-Sep-2015
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Very interesting chapter. You continue to keep me glued that whole way!
1.) The only people I'd miss would be my doctor and dentist.
--> and those are important relationships! *smile*
--> and - did you keep journals on all this? How on earth do you remember it all?
2.) Anne: You didn't wonder why (you) were thirsty all the time?
3.) Dee: That's because I have to go (D- 'up and') down those damn stairs thirty times a day to get something to eat!
4.) This was the (aunt) I remembered, not the witch at the nursing home,
--> and two more corrections in the following sentences
5.) Two (months) later, a supervisor at the home called to say Mother had passed away.
6.) She had reached ninety.(")
--> I realize you're probably (almost certainly) talking about her age here, but since you were just discussing the fact that her weight is dropping like crazy and was down to 95, you might want to make it CLEAR that this IS age.
7.) I hadn't exchanged cards, letters or phone calls (from? or 'with'?) my aunt since the wake
Hope this helps a bit! Let me know when you edit and I'll re-rate!
Comment Written 21-Sep-2015
reply by the author on 21-Sep-2015
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I think I got them all along with adding and making other slight changes. As for the capitalization of Aunt, I was following this rule:When terms denoting family relationships are used as proper nouns (i.e. as names), they are capitalized.
Examples,
Mom, Dad wants to know when dinner will be ready.
Hey, Sis. What are you doing?
Thanks for a thorough review.
No journal, but my family including Mom went to the same doctor for over thirty years. He was "Fred" to me, not Dr. Taylor.
Same thing with the dentist.
The same thing would be true here if I moved again. I love my dentist and my doctor (although I went through four before I found someone I liked.)
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As I understand it, you only capitalize when referring to the person directly. There's a sentence later in the piece where you did NOT capitalize 'aunt'. So, in your examples, I think it would actually be, "Mom, dad wants to know..."
etc.
But I'm wrong a lot! *smile*
I'm going back to re-rate now!
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I copied the examples from an internet site. However, I agree that it looks weird. Thanks for the better rating. :-)