When Blood Collides
Viewing comments for Chapter 52 "Deleting Frank?"A family's love is tested.
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Comment from sibhus
Whoa, poor Frank. Bet that doesn't go down to well. Definitely a good thing, I never got the job as a teacher. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't been able to handle the life style. This was an interesting chapter, and I can see how you must have been stressed out, during this period of life. Good stuff there, Spitfire.
reply by the author on 27-Aug-2015
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Whoa, poor Frank. Bet that doesn't go down to well. Definitely a good thing, I never got the job as a teacher. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't been able to handle the life style. This was an interesting chapter, and I can see how you must have been stressed out, during this period of life. Good stuff there, Spitfire.
Comment Written 27-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 27-Aug-2015
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My students said the same thing-- they could never be a teacher. They'd want to throttle the students.
Comment from w.j.debi
You have such a positive outlook on things, but you've been taking care of everybody except yourself. Some alone time is a nice break and a chance to recharge so you can enjoy take care of all those things you want to again. Your therapist sounds like a wise person.
reply by the author on 27-Aug-2015
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You have such a positive outlook on things, but you've been taking care of everybody except yourself. Some alone time is a nice break and a chance to recharge so you can enjoy take care of all those things you want to again. Your therapist sounds like a wise person.
Comment Written 26-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 27-Aug-2015
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you've been taking care of everybody except yourself.--yeap, that's exactly what I did. Until you said it, I didn't realize it. THanks. Sounds like you're a therapist too. :-)
Comment from ProSongwriter
Hi Again, Shari ...
Erasing Frank from your life ... probably not ... just cutting back on the time together. But, most men tend to be defensive and he will probably take that as thought you feel he is no longer as important to you as in times past. I suspect he won't take that well!
From his POV, you won't let him be the fixer he's been trained to be and he won't be the rock you lean on all the time. I don't foresee this with a smiley face ending!
Another interesting and great chapter.
Alan
reply by the author on 27-Aug-2015
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Hi Again, Shari ...
Erasing Frank from your life ... probably not ... just cutting back on the time together. But, most men tend to be defensive and he will probably take that as thought you feel he is no longer as important to you as in times past. I suspect he won't take that well!
From his POV, you won't let him be the fixer he's been trained to be and he won't be the rock you lean on all the time. I don't foresee this with a smiley face ending!
Another interesting and great chapter.
Alan
Comment Written 26-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 27-Aug-2015
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Yes, this is a tough situation and I have to handle it with kid gloves. Thanks for following, Alan.
Comment from Donya Quijote
I think the therapist gave you good advice, and no you were not erasing hubby from your life. You were under more stress than you realize. I remember this list from my psychology class about the biggest stressors in a person's life. I think you hit the top five, with the exception of divorce. Seeking someone to talk to was a wise choice. I think people forget that, and many try to be fixers when all that is needed is a good pair of ears and a hug. We forget how important such things are, especially today with all this technology. What is funny is that in spite of all this alleged connectedness we aren't all that connected and more lonely than ever.
Did not note any spag. Good chapter....
reply by the author on 26-Aug-2015
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I think the therapist gave you good advice, and no you were not erasing hubby from your life. You were under more stress than you realize. I remember this list from my psychology class about the biggest stressors in a person's life. I think you hit the top five, with the exception of divorce. Seeking someone to talk to was a wise choice. I think people forget that, and many try to be fixers when all that is needed is a good pair of ears and a hug. We forget how important such things are, especially today with all this technology. What is funny is that in spite of all this alleged connectedness we aren't all that connected and more lonely than ever.
Did not note any spag. Good chapter....
Comment Written 26-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 26-Aug-2015
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Teaching itself is noted as a stressful occupation. We get so used to dealing with upsetting situations, we forget to think of them as stressors. Speaking of which, how is the house deal coming along?
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My closing date is Sept 18. I think everything is progressing as it should though I have not heard anything since the appraisal last week. I should hear something soon. My realtor already put in a request for information. Getting excited about a place to call my own. It's gonna be a busy year for me: the new house, the national cert process, yearbook, school newspaper, prep for national spanish exam (maybe someone will get a gold, silver or bronze medal this time). I will probably be nuts by Spring. Oh, and just tonight I got a 911 from a parent wanting a tutor for her son, who is repeating Spanish 2 this year. Can't say no, got to help. Am I nuts already?
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No, but you probably will be before the year is over. Pace yourself, my dear.
Comment from robyn corum
I'm really enjoying this, Shari! I'm so proud of you being brave enough to let the world inside! Go, you!
1.) "Now that you're retired, you can start cooking dinners and paying bills. I'll show you my system for keeping track of everything."
--> "No, no. Just lemme fix something. Anything. I've got the tools handy right here." hahahahaha -- (sorry couldn't resist. I LOVED your line!
2.) "When I get home, Frank wants to talk. I'm tired and want to take a nap."
--> you have a husband who WANTS to talk? what's that?
3.) With Frank being home twenty-four /seven, you have no down-time anymore."
--> unneeded (space) before the slash
Great job!
reply by the author on 26-Aug-2015
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I'm really enjoying this, Shari! I'm so proud of you being brave enough to let the world inside! Go, you!
1.) "Now that you're retired, you can start cooking dinners and paying bills. I'll show you my system for keeping track of everything."
--> "No, no. Just lemme fix something. Anything. I've got the tools handy right here." hahahahaha -- (sorry couldn't resist. I LOVED your line!
2.) "When I get home, Frank wants to talk. I'm tired and want to take a nap."
--> you have a husband who WANTS to talk? what's that?
3.) With Frank being home twenty-four /seven, you have no down-time anymore."
--> unneeded (space) before the slash
Great job!
Comment Written 26-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 26-Aug-2015
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Ha, love your comments. Frank's not a handyman. As for talk, he's good at that. He'll chat non-stop with strangers.
Fixed the typo. Thanks for looking in on this. :-)
Comment from Phyllis Stewart
Great advice. I'd make it an hour. Mark and I are alone more than together. We each go to our own computers after dinner and then watch about two hours of TV news and/or a movie or play Scrabble or do SOMETHING together. It's enough. :)
reply by the author on 26-Aug-2015
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Great advice. I'd make it an hour. Mark and I are alone more than together. We each go to our own computers after dinner and then watch about two hours of TV news and/or a movie or play Scrabble or do SOMETHING together. It's enough. :)
Comment Written 26-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 26-Aug-2015
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My feelings exactly. Now,he watches TV while I write and give up one hour every nite to watch part one of a rental movie.
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Comment from Jay Squires
Yvetter frowned. "As I remember, he told me he loved working with children who had issues." [Added an "r" to Yvette.]
I can imagine how the news is going to set with Frank. First you don't want his input any more, just hugs. Now you're saying not even hugs for 45 minutes after I get home. That's how Frank took it, I'm willing to bet.
Good job, Shari.
reply by the author on 26-Aug-2015
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Yvetter frowned. "As I remember, he told me he loved working with children who had issues." [Added an "r" to Yvette.]
I can imagine how the news is going to set with Frank. First you don't want his input any more, just hugs. Now you're saying not even hugs for 45 minutes after I get home. That's how Frank took it, I'm willing to bet.
Good job, Shari.
Comment Written 26-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 26-Aug-2015
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LOL. Thanks for giving me an idea on how to open the next chapter. I always have time for a hug. Thanks for noting the typo.
Comment from judiverse
Maybe retiring at 62 wasn't a good thing for Frank, but you're the one receiving therapy. I know what you mean about resenting losing your free period to cover someone else's class. You lose time to grade papers and plan. You seem to be taking a positive attitude about loving your honors classes. Hope that worked out. Excellent write, really revealing your feelings. judi
reply by the author on 26-Aug-2015
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Maybe retiring at 62 wasn't a good thing for Frank, but you're the one receiving therapy. I know what you mean about resenting losing your free period to cover someone else's class. You lose time to grade papers and plan. You seem to be taking a positive attitude about loving your honors classes. Hope that worked out. Excellent write, really revealing your feelings. judi
Comment Written 26-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 26-Aug-2015
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Thanks, judi. Don't worry about Frank. I find a way to keep him busy. LOL
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You're welcome. Will look forward to the next revelation. judi
Comment from Eigle Rull
I still say your therapist is very intelligent. She seems to figure things out quickly. This interesting chapter filled my mind with the different things I'd say if I was your therapist. That's the roll I took on while reading this chapter. I also confront Frank, as you. (Sorry, when I get into a story, I jump right in). This held my attention and I enjoyed what I red--All except for the crying spells. I never know what to do or say when someone starts crying. This was an excellent chapter, my friend. Best wishes to you.
Always with respect,
reply by the author on 26-Aug-2015
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I still say your therapist is very intelligent. She seems to figure things out quickly. This interesting chapter filled my mind with the different things I'd say if I was your therapist. That's the roll I took on while reading this chapter. I also confront Frank, as you. (Sorry, when I get into a story, I jump right in). This held my attention and I enjoyed what I red--All except for the crying spells. I never know what to do or say when someone starts crying. This was an excellent chapter, my friend. Best wishes to you.
Always with respect,
Comment Written 26-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 26-Aug-2015
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I found out early that men can't handle tears. It works wonders to get what I want. LOL
Comment from Mystic Angel 7777
This is a marvelous read as so many people can relate to this on various levels. I love the affirmations concept since I use those all the time - strange how well they work. Poor Shari is dealing with lots and now a full time hubby to boot. I can't wait to see how hubby deals with a daily time out - I tried that a few times and could never get it to work so I hope it does for her. Nicely done and I thank you very much for sharing it.
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reply by the author on 26-Aug-2015
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This is a marvelous read as so many people can relate to this on various levels. I love the affirmations concept since I use those all the time - strange how well they work. Poor Shari is dealing with lots and now a full time hubby to boot. I can't wait to see how hubby deals with a daily time out - I tried that a few times and could never get it to work so I hope it does for her. Nicely done and I thank you very much for sharing it.
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Comment Written 26-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 26-Aug-2015
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Thanks, Mystic, for a great review. Frank respected Yvette and wanted to help adjust. LOL that you tried it and never got it to work.
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Seriously LOL .... no matter which time slot I picked as my sacred quiet time there always had to be some form of drama that crashed through the gates of peaceful solitude. I actually had to DELETE the cause ROFL. Now life is lovely.
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My imagination is running rampant with this one.
