Chasing the Elusive Dream
Viewing comments for Chapter 11 "An Awkward Situation"A southern couple's journey in the 60's,70's & 80'
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Comment from prettybluebirds
What era does this incident take place In? I grew up in the fifties where women were often taken advantage of in work situations, not that it ever happened to me. I will watch for more of this story. I didn't spot any errors.
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2021
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What era does this incident take place In? I grew up in the fifties where women were often taken advantage of in work situations, not that it ever happened to me. I will watch for more of this story. I didn't spot any errors.
Comment Written 14-Dec-2021
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2021
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Thank you for a very nice review. I grew up in the fifties as well and I had problem more than once. This particular chapter took place in 1959 in Mississippi.
Comment from Judy Lawless
This is a well written story, Beth, and the topic is unfortunately still current today in many instances I think. Floyd was just over-the-top and more than a little bit scary. I'm glad you managed to make it through, but sorry you couldn't go back to the job.
A few little spags: "The week after Susan's funeral, Evan and (I) spent some time on a practically deserted Island in the Gulf."
"One thing he revealed was that he'd had (a) problems with alcohol,..."
Who, in their right mind, would fall for someone about (to) give birth?
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2021
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This is a well written story, Beth, and the topic is unfortunately still current today in many instances I think. Floyd was just over-the-top and more than a little bit scary. I'm glad you managed to make it through, but sorry you couldn't go back to the job.
A few little spags: "The week after Susan's funeral, Evan and (I) spent some time on a practically deserted Island in the Gulf."
"One thing he revealed was that he'd had (a) problems with alcohol,..."
Who, in their right mind, would fall for someone about (to) give birth?
Comment Written 14-Dec-2021
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2021
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If you get this twice it means I must not have hit save the first time. Thank you for a great review and I appreciate you point out my errors.
Beth
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You're welcome, Beth. And you sent it only once. :)
Comment from Alcreator Litt Dear
Your married life has been like the concept 'unity in diversity'; shifting place of residence from one country to another, getting new job, living in an unknown place, problems arise more in sands, one more child born there, but you continued your professional job in art; you continued learning jobs, but because of your patience you managed everything, because you know, life means living with changes and living in changes; well said, well done; keep writing. ALCREATOR LITT DEAR
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2021
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Your married life has been like the concept 'unity in diversity'; shifting place of residence from one country to another, getting new job, living in an unknown place, problems arise more in sands, one more child born there, but you continued your professional job in art; you continued learning jobs, but because of your patience you managed everything, because you know, life means living with changes and living in changes; well said, well done; keep writing. ALCREATOR LITT DEAR
Comment Written 14-Dec-2021
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2021
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Thank you Al, I very much appreciate the review and the nice comments.
Beth
Comment from robyn corum
Beth,
Wow. It's one thing to confess his love to you and drive you nuts - but to tell the world? He must have been nuts about you! It was a very different world for a long while. I think things are better in a lot of ways - but now everyone is too scared to say or do anything!
Thanks!
reply by the author on 14-Dec-2021
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Beth,
Wow. It's one thing to confess his love to you and drive you nuts - but to tell the world? He must have been nuts about you! It was a very different world for a long while. I think things are better in a lot of ways - but now everyone is too scared to say or do anything!
Thanks!
Comment Written 14-Dec-2021
reply by the author on 14-Dec-2021
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Thank you Robyn. I think he was a little nuts when he was drinking. I made the mistake of thinking he was like a father figure and I guess I let my guard down by being too trusting. My husband always told me, women can't be good friends with men they work with. I didn't believe that, but in that case he had a point.
Comment from Ben Colder
Caught me without a six. I enjoyed this, and yes, stuff like that ran wild in the workforce. No matter the trade. I could only say you should have flattened him with something and told the boss he fell for being drunk. Had I been Evaan, I would have waited for him one day and beat the stuffing out of him.
reply by the author on 14-Dec-2021
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Caught me without a six. I enjoyed this, and yes, stuff like that ran wild in the workforce. No matter the trade. I could only say you should have flattened him with something and told the boss he fell for being drunk. Had I been Evaan, I would have waited for him one day and beat the stuffing out of him.
Comment Written 14-Dec-2021
reply by the author on 14-Dec-2021
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I would have done that if he tried forcing himself on me. As to Evan beating the stuffing out of him, that is what I feared. That is way I waited so long and didn't tell him all that was said. I didn't want him to do something to get himself in trouble of embarrass me. That is why guys end up in jail for trying to protect their women's honor. I'll bet you wife had to be careful what she told you, too.
Thanks for a great review.
Beth
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Yes, she knew me and what I would do,
No man in his right mind would let his wife be badgered in any way,
Comment from N.K. Wagner
Beth, there are predators everywhere, of both sexes. Friendliness can be viewed as a come-on by those inclined to play. Even keeping communication "strictly business" doesn't always work. Sounds like this gentleman had problems completely unrelated to you. Condolences on the loss of your daughter. Well written. :) nancy
reply by the author on 11-Aug-2013
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Beth, there are predators everywhere, of both sexes. Friendliness can be viewed as a come-on by those inclined to play. Even keeping communication "strictly business" doesn't always work. Sounds like this gentleman had problems completely unrelated to you. Condolences on the loss of your daughter. Well written. :) nancy
Comment Written 11-Aug-2013
reply by the author on 11-Aug-2013
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Thank you, Nancy. I really appreciate the review and comment. You are right. He had his problems. Still, I oculdn't help but wonder if I should have done something different.
Beth
Comment from barbara.wilkey
During my mom's time once you started showing you had to quit working. I'm glad times have changed. I have know idea why men think they have to mess with women working with them.
reply by the author on 10-Aug-2013
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During my mom's time once you started showing you had to quit working. I'm glad times have changed. I have know idea why men think they have to mess with women working with them.
Comment Written 10-Aug-2013
reply by the author on 10-Aug-2013
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Thanks Barbara. I appreciate the review and comments. I think that was the case at most places at that time but I think it was up to the company to enforce the rule. In my case, I had to leave a month before the baby was due.
Comment from Zue65
Well that is true when young married women are working, the men co-workers sometimes prey on them. And vulnerable women will not watch out, they can be dragged into situations they don't like and too hot to handle. In this stage husbands should be there to support and not indulge on blaming games. Like this chapter too, God bless.
reply by the author on 10-Aug-2013
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Well that is true when young married women are working, the men co-workers sometimes prey on them. And vulnerable women will not watch out, they can be dragged into situations they don't like and too hot to handle. In this stage husbands should be there to support and not indulge on blaming games. Like this chapter too, God bless.
Comment Written 10-Aug-2013
reply by the author on 10-Aug-2013
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Thank you so much for the review and comments. I've always been a friendly persont to both men and women. I was just telling my husband today, I'm thankful now that I'm older that I can be myself without men getting the wrong impression. There has to be some reward for getting old. LOL
Beth
Comment from EMB
Vodka and coke? I thought that vodka needed fruit juice. Haha! Floyd was probably on the wagon when you met him, and then he fell off and started making the moves on you. :)
You made me feel sorry for Floyd. An engaging read.
reply by the author on 08-Aug-2013
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Vodka and coke? I thought that vodka needed fruit juice. Haha! Floyd was probably on the wagon when you met him, and then he fell off and started making the moves on you. :)
You made me feel sorry for Floyd. An engaging read.
Comment Written 08-Aug-2013
reply by the author on 08-Aug-2013
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Edward, Thank you for the review and comments. We didn't have any juice. I wanted to taste it but not straight. Actually I felt sorry for Floyd too, but I had a marriage to protect. He was a decent guy when he was sober.
Beth
Comment from Gert sherwood
Beth your story is excellent. You did right not to go back to work, but don't understand why you didn't report the incident and especially the continuous telephone calls
Gert
reply by the author on 08-Aug-2013
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Beth your story is excellent. You did right not to go back to work, but don't understand why you didn't report the incident and especially the continuous telephone calls
Gert
Comment Written 08-Aug-2013
reply by the author on 08-Aug-2013
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Gert, I don't think anyone reported things like that in those days. If they did, I doubt if anything would have been done about it. Sexual harrassment was something most women expected and tried to learn to deal with. I really apprecaite the review and nice comments.
Beth
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You are welcome Beth I understand what you are saying
Keep writing about your marriage.
Gert
