Is Teasing the Right Word
I don't think so27 total reviews
Comment from Mary Shifman
I completely agree with you! Using the word "teasing" is an attempt to put a more gentle face on actions that are actually bullying. Throughout my school years I was teased for being fat. I look back at pictures from those days and I wasn't really fat. I think they targeted me because they knew it hurt me and I've always carried my emotions on my face. I seldom defended myself, but boy could I light in to a bully when they started harassing someone else. I understand where you're coming from.
reply by the author on 16-Feb-2023
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I completely agree with you! Using the word "teasing" is an attempt to put a more gentle face on actions that are actually bullying. Throughout my school years I was teased for being fat. I look back at pictures from those days and I wasn't really fat. I think they targeted me because they knew it hurt me and I've always carried my emotions on my face. I seldom defended myself, but boy could I light in to a bully when they started harassing someone else. I understand where you're coming from.
Comment Written 15-Feb-2023
reply by the author on 16-Feb-2023
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I'm so glad you understand. I learned bullies are cowards at heart and will back down when confronted.
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Yes, you're right.
Comment from LateBloomer
Hi Yvonne, I'm so sorry to hear that you were a victim of bullying. As the years went by, you have learned to stand your ground and then some. Good for you! You'll be sad to hear this, but recently my 7-year old grandson was bullied on the school bus by a group of Six. They wanted him to say bad words. He did know what the words meant, so he would not say them. So, they knocked his hat off his head, pulled his hair, scratched his face, and threatened to do something very vulgar to him. I don't think that I need to say more. These children are in the second grade. I cannot understand how a 7-year-old child has learned to be so mean?!
I love your photo. Were you raised in a city? I always think of you as being a country girl.
Of special note:
As the years went on, the "teasing" changed. It was mental abuse rather than physical.
(Abuse is abuse. Sometimes mental abuse is worse than physical abuse. Every child should be able to go to school in a safe and peaceful environment. The worse part of it is that the child who has been bullied is the one that is many times move to a different classroom or school--not the bullier, but the victim.)
Thank you for sharing this story. In spite of it all, you are now a strong and confident woman--a woman to be admired. Year #10 is before you. Have made a PSA that all bulliers should watch out? Lol. Well done.
Xo. M
reply by the author on 16-Feb-2023
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Hi Yvonne, I'm so sorry to hear that you were a victim of bullying. As the years went by, you have learned to stand your ground and then some. Good for you! You'll be sad to hear this, but recently my 7-year old grandson was bullied on the school bus by a group of Six. They wanted him to say bad words. He did know what the words meant, so he would not say them. So, they knocked his hat off his head, pulled his hair, scratched his face, and threatened to do something very vulgar to him. I don't think that I need to say more. These children are in the second grade. I cannot understand how a 7-year-old child has learned to be so mean?!
I love your photo. Were you raised in a city? I always think of you as being a country girl.
Of special note:
As the years went on, the "teasing" changed. It was mental abuse rather than physical.
(Abuse is abuse. Sometimes mental abuse is worse than physical abuse. Every child should be able to go to school in a safe and peaceful environment. The worse part of it is that the child who has been bullied is the one that is many times move to a different classroom or school--not the bullier, but the victim.)
Thank you for sharing this story. In spite of it all, you are now a strong and confident woman--a woman to be admired. Year #10 is before you. Have made a PSA that all bulliers should watch out? Lol. Well done.
Xo. M
Comment Written 15-Feb-2023
reply by the author on 16-Feb-2023
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I drove a school bus for fifteen years, and I would never allow that to happen on my watch. I always had good discipline. I'm so sorry he went through that. I remember when John was about that age, he hit another boy on the bus, and I really got onto him and said I'd whip him when we got home. One of the teenagers came up and told me this kindergarten child called John a M-F!!!!! I hadn't heard that word until I was grown and living on a Navy base.
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I hear you. At 7 years old, you know these children are here in these words inside the house. With profanity and vulgarity like this, the parent should also be called into the principals office and question where and how do you think your children hear, these words? Thank you for sharing your story with us? still timely. Xo. M
Comment from Ric Myworld
I think we've most all experienced being bullied, and it's not something we ever forget. But in many cases, when we get tired of being pushed around, we fight back. Thanks for sharing.
reply by the author on 15-Feb-2023
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I think we've most all experienced being bullied, and it's not something we ever forget. But in many cases, when we get tired of being pushed around, we fight back. Thanks for sharing.
Comment Written 15-Feb-2023
reply by the author on 15-Feb-2023
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Thanks for reviewing.
Comment from Jannypan (Jan)
I agree, Yvonne. You were bullied not teased. I applaud how
you've spent your life helping others in similar situations. Your
examples showed courage, determination, and love for the
underdog--really anyone in a bullying situation. I was thrilled
to learn you spoke up in the 3rd grade. We all need to do that
if/when we see something or even hear about bullying. You are
doing an excellent job writing your thoughts which are chapters
for your book, then sharing on FS. Each one gives readers a glimpse
into you as a special lady with compassion, fairness, and love
for all. Your picture was adorable.
Thanks for sharing, Jan
reply by the author on 15-Feb-2023
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I agree, Yvonne. You were bullied not teased. I applaud how
you've spent your life helping others in similar situations. Your
examples showed courage, determination, and love for the
underdog--really anyone in a bullying situation. I was thrilled
to learn you spoke up in the 3rd grade. We all need to do that
if/when we see something or even hear about bullying. You are
doing an excellent job writing your thoughts which are chapters
for your book, then sharing on FS. Each one gives readers a glimpse
into you as a special lady with compassion, fairness, and love
for all. Your picture was adorable.
Thanks for sharing, Jan
Comment Written 15-Feb-2023
reply by the author on 15-Feb-2023
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Thank you so much for this wonderful review!
Comment from aryr
The picture was perfect, damommy. Your words represented the anguish you felt at being bullied. I am proud of you. I too was short until I had a growth spurt and ten. I was picked on relentlessly. Very well done and greatly enjoyed. Blessings n hugs!!!
reply by the author on 15-Feb-2023
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The picture was perfect, damommy. Your words represented the anguish you felt at being bullied. I am proud of you. I too was short until I had a growth spurt and ten. I was picked on relentlessly. Very well done and greatly enjoyed. Blessings n hugs!!!
Comment Written 15-Feb-2023
reply by the author on 15-Feb-2023
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Thank you. Thank goodness, it wasn't like today when weapons are taken to school!
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No weapons, thank God. You are are so welcome, Yvonne.
Comment from barbara.wilkey
Thank you for sharing this with us. Once I was sitting on the outdoor bleachers watching one of my sons play football. I witnessed a father physically slap his probably about three-year-old son because the child complained another child hit him. I turned to address the father and my teenage son, stopped me, "Mom, stay out of it, you're eight months pregnant." DARN!!! That man was going down. I understand.
reply by the author on 15-Feb-2023
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Thank you for sharing this with us. Once I was sitting on the outdoor bleachers watching one of my sons play football. I witnessed a father physically slap his probably about three-year-old son because the child complained another child hit him. I turned to address the father and my teenage son, stopped me, "Mom, stay out of it, you're eight months pregnant." DARN!!! That man was going down. I understand.
Comment Written 15-Feb-2023
reply by the author on 15-Feb-2023
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I'm glad you do. That man needed taking down. Hopefully, someone did eventually. He should have been reported.
Comment from eliz100
Let's call a spade a spade. Teasing is torture. You put up with so much. I hope in the rest of your life there is joy. I do not see any room for improvement. Have a blessed day.
reply by the author on 15-Feb-2023
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Let's call a spade a spade. Teasing is torture. You put up with so much. I hope in the rest of your life there is joy. I do not see any room for improvement. Have a blessed day.
Comment Written 15-Feb-2023
reply by the author on 15-Feb-2023
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Thank you. Yes, I've had a great life.
Comment from Sally Law
I was bullied as you may recall. There is a difference especially if it is ongoing which is how the bully wears you down until he is stopped by someone, even someone as sweet and delicate as you.
You go, girlfriend, good for you and for your friend. I bet he never never saw that coming. Mine didn't either. Wishing for a six today. Sending you my very best.
Sal XOs
reply by the author on 15-Feb-2023
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I was bullied as you may recall. There is a difference especially if it is ongoing which is how the bully wears you down until he is stopped by someone, even someone as sweet and delicate as you.
You go, girlfriend, good for you and for your friend. I bet he never never saw that coming. Mine didn't either. Wishing for a six today. Sending you my very best.
Sal XOs
Comment Written 15-Feb-2023
reply by the author on 15-Feb-2023
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Thank you. I'm learning lots of people were bullied as children. Thank goodness it was time of innocence and no one thought about weapons like today.
Comment from BethShelby
I'm enjoying your story. I think regardless of our size the bigger kids always did what they could get away with to the younger kids. Personally I think you were adorable in the picture. Actually in our school, it was the tiny girls that everyone loved and the tall or heavier ones other kids didn't want to play with. The small boys did get bullied though. Bullies are usually oversensitive about something they feel is wrong about themselves and they think by pushing others around it make them look tougher. It is too bad some grow up still being bullies.
reply by the author on 15-Feb-2023
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I'm enjoying your story. I think regardless of our size the bigger kids always did what they could get away with to the younger kids. Personally I think you were adorable in the picture. Actually in our school, it was the tiny girls that everyone loved and the tall or heavier ones other kids didn't want to play with. The small boys did get bullied though. Bullies are usually oversensitive about something they feel is wrong about themselves and they think by pushing others around it make them look tougher. It is too bad some grow up still being bullies.
Comment Written 15-Feb-2023
reply by the author on 15-Feb-2023
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You're so right. It makes them feel good about themselves. Over the years, I learned they are cowards at heart and will back down when confronted.
Comment from GWHARGIS
I used to bully the bullies. I loved to see that smug smile slowly slide away. I was really terrible but I couldn't stand it. Then I got labeled mean. I've pulled it back over the years so now I'm just called blunt. Lol. Keep writing these. I'm enjoying reading. Gretchen
reply by the author on 15-Feb-2023
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I used to bully the bullies. I loved to see that smug smile slowly slide away. I was really terrible but I couldn't stand it. Then I got labeled mean. I've pulled it back over the years so now I'm just called blunt. Lol. Keep writing these. I'm enjoying reading. Gretchen
Comment Written 15-Feb-2023
reply by the author on 15-Feb-2023
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Thank you for the encouragement and support. I think I might be considered blunt. I tend to speak in imperatives, and I don't mean it to sound bossy, but it probably does. I've been told many times that I'm intimidating. Me? I'm only 5'1"!
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Lol. We would probably get along nicely. Fretchen