Walk With Me.
Viewing comments for Chapter 4 "Walk With Me"From victim to survivor of abuse.
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Comment from Sankey
Dear Sis I trust you have found that succour you needed in Christ as your Saviour. I am pretty sure you have. Unfortunately some of these 'churches' don't offer real hope. All they offer is tradition and systems and Sacraments that really achieve nothing. I think you read a poem I wrote about how baptism and Mass etc don't save us. It is in my Geoffrey's Musings book on here if you have not seen it. I came back here from the chapter that was being promoted as I felt I needed to start at the beginning as maria Von Trapp (Julie Andrews) sang. God bless you dear sis I hope Erin is all she can be to you in acceptance and unconditional love. I know my wife would relate to a lot of what you have said in here people don't talk toher she is shy and being in a wheel chair of course she is a retard and doesn't have a mind of her own! WRONG!You are in my prayers ok!
reply by the author on 06-Jan-2015
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Dear Sis I trust you have found that succour you needed in Christ as your Saviour. I am pretty sure you have. Unfortunately some of these 'churches' don't offer real hope. All they offer is tradition and systems and Sacraments that really achieve nothing. I think you read a poem I wrote about how baptism and Mass etc don't save us. It is in my Geoffrey's Musings book on here if you have not seen it. I came back here from the chapter that was being promoted as I felt I needed to start at the beginning as maria Von Trapp (Julie Andrews) sang. God bless you dear sis I hope Erin is all she can be to you in acceptance and unconditional love. I know my wife would relate to a lot of what you have said in here people don't talk toher she is shy and being in a wheel chair of course she is a retard and doesn't have a mind of her own! WRONG!You are in my prayers ok!
Comment Written 01-Jan-2015
reply by the author on 06-Jan-2015
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Thank you.
I appreciate your comments.
God is the focus in my life and my children and siblings are it's centre.
Together they create a strong and supportive life force.
I offer my compassion for the difficulties your wife must face.
I am behind in reviews due to phone/internet issues.
I Will catch up ASAP
:-)
Comment from Treischel
First of all, thanks for sharing this emotional journey. It takes courage to do. I hope that it created for you the healing that you so richly deserve. I to was raised with an abusive father, and understand the conflicting currents if self worth that result. This very well written. Go forward in your faith and strenght. This is excellent.
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2014
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First of all, thanks for sharing this emotional journey. It takes courage to do. I hope that it created for you the healing that you so richly deserve. I to was raised with an abusive father, and understand the conflicting currents if self worth that result. This very well written. Go forward in your faith and strenght. This is excellent.
Comment Written 13-Dec-2014
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2014
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Thank you.
I appreciate your generous review and understanding.
:-) Shirley
Comment from Maureen's Pen
Dear Shirley,
This is an emotion roller coaster of a time for you. I can feel this one deeply, so deeply. Yet I find as long as we don't see ourselves as victim or want pity for the journey we walk then we can come out the other side of the tunnel. Impressive work here, sometimes those around us don't understand nor see the trauma we endure. In those moments it's still important to stay true to you. Like you do in this work - for only in facing the storm, not hiding it under the carpet or pretending it is not what it is ....can we then stand tall in time of healing and release it all.
Much love and many hugs coming your way.
Thanks for sharing your journey.
Maureen
reply by the author on 12-Dec-2014
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Dear Shirley,
This is an emotion roller coaster of a time for you. I can feel this one deeply, so deeply. Yet I find as long as we don't see ourselves as victim or want pity for the journey we walk then we can come out the other side of the tunnel. Impressive work here, sometimes those around us don't understand nor see the trauma we endure. In those moments it's still important to stay true to you. Like you do in this work - for only in facing the storm, not hiding it under the carpet or pretending it is not what it is ....can we then stand tall in time of healing and release it all.
Much love and many hugs coming your way.
Thanks for sharing your journey.
Maureen
Comment Written 12-Dec-2014
reply by the author on 12-Dec-2014
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Thank you Moreen.
It is so lovely to read your work and reviews again.
I appreciate your thoughtful response and caring review.
I hope your healing is progressing well.
:-) Shirley
Comment from Nosha17
You have already taken a big step by writing about it. You are very brave and positive about your future. The fact that you don't consider yourself a victim (even though you are) is very commendable. With faith in God and a good attitude you will hopefully achieve your goal. Well expressed thoughts and a good message to people. I spotted couple of errors-hope you don't mind-Para 2, line 4, dependent (here it is an adjective). Para 3, line 2, were suppressed. Enjoyable read. Faye
reply by the author on 12-Dec-2014
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You have already taken a big step by writing about it. You are very brave and positive about your future. The fact that you don't consider yourself a victim (even though you are) is very commendable. With faith in God and a good attitude you will hopefully achieve your goal. Well expressed thoughts and a good message to people. I spotted couple of errors-hope you don't mind-Para 2, line 4, dependent (here it is an adjective). Para 3, line 2, were suppressed. Enjoyable read. Faye
Comment Written 11-Dec-2014
reply by the author on 12-Dec-2014
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Thank you for a very thorough review and kind comments.
I appreciate your time and error detection.
:-) Shirley
Comment from l.raven
Hi Shirley, you post it sweet girl and I will walk the journey with you...promise...you start it from when you can first remember it...and know God is walking with you...no one should go through abuse like that...and will never understand a women or men....who would touch there child like that...judge you for what??? surviving...love you...you...always...lead the way...Luff Linda xxoo well written
reply by the author on 12-Dec-2014
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Hi Shirley, you post it sweet girl and I will walk the journey with you...promise...you start it from when you can first remember it...and know God is walking with you...no one should go through abuse like that...and will never understand a women or men....who would touch there child like that...judge you for what??? surviving...love you...you...always...lead the way...Luff Linda xxoo well written
Comment Written 10-Dec-2014
reply by the author on 12-Dec-2014
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Thank you Linda.
I appreciate your caring support and thoughtful review.
:-) Shirley
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you are always sooooo welcome Shirley...luff xxoo
Comment from Dean Kuch
That's a tactic most abusers of children use, Shirley. They'll tell the child that if they tell anyone, everyone will think they're "bad", and no one will like them any more. When you're a kid, that's a big deal. As you grow older, you realize it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Right is right.
It sounds as if it is much easier for you to get all of the pain and anger out by writing about it rather than talking to someone about it. Writing is definitely one of the best therapeutic exercises there is, no doubts about it.
That's very true, what you wrote about emotional pain verse that of a physical nature. A slap in the face might sting for an hour, maybe a couple of days if you get hit hard enough to leave a bruise. But emotional pain, well...let's just say that I'd opt for a slap to the face any day of the week.
Wonderfully written, Shirley. ~Dean
reply by the author on 12-Dec-2014
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That's a tactic most abusers of children use, Shirley. They'll tell the child that if they tell anyone, everyone will think they're "bad", and no one will like them any more. When you're a kid, that's a big deal. As you grow older, you realize it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Right is right.
It sounds as if it is much easier for you to get all of the pain and anger out by writing about it rather than talking to someone about it. Writing is definitely one of the best therapeutic exercises there is, no doubts about it.
That's very true, what you wrote about emotional pain verse that of a physical nature. A slap in the face might sting for an hour, maybe a couple of days if you get hit hard enough to leave a bruise. But emotional pain, well...let's just say that I'd opt for a slap to the face any day of the week.
Wonderfully written, Shirley. ~Dean
Comment Written 10-Dec-2014
reply by the author on 12-Dec-2014
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Thank you Dean.
I appreciate your very thoughtful review.
I can see that you have an understanding of the sinister way
the abuser wreaks damage, and how long the effects may last.
Writing has helped me so much. I only really opened my eyes and
recognised that I had been a victim for all those years when I began
to write and post on this site about 18 months ago.
It has been very cathartic and empowering to finally work through the
mass of memories and emotions and put them into words.
Thank you for walking with me.
:-) Shirley
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I'll walk with you anywhere you care to take me along, Shirley, on whatever journey you care to write about.
You are very welcome... :}
~Dean
Comment from Samuel Dickens
Thank you for sharing this. Concerning childhoods, we have some things in common, so I understand the cathartic value of you writing this. The low self esteem and putting everyone's needs before your own--these things I know well, also.
reply by the author on 10-Dec-2014
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Thank you for sharing this. Concerning childhoods, we have some things in common, so I understand the cathartic value of you writing this. The low self esteem and putting everyone's needs before your own--these things I know well, also.
Comment Written 10-Dec-2014
reply by the author on 10-Dec-2014
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Thank you for reviewing with understanding and care.
I appreciate your time.
Sadly, it seems, many have similar experiences to share.
:-) Shirley
Comment from Tomes Johnston
This is an absolutely distressing post that the author has created with this piece of work. I feel so heartbroken after reading this post and also very angry. Well done.
reply by the author on 10-Dec-2014
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This is an absolutely distressing post that the author has created with this piece of work. I feel so heartbroken after reading this post and also very angry. Well done.
Comment Written 10-Dec-2014
reply by the author on 10-Dec-2014
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Thank you Tomes.
I appreciate your heartfelt sentiments and exceptional review.
Sorry for any distress caused to you.
A victim must acknowledge and release a myriad of emotions
to allow cleansing, release, and freedom to take place.
My journey toward healing, although started late, is finally allowing
an amazing change to occur.
Thanks for walking with me.
:-) Shirley
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Well done.
Comment from Jacqueline M Franklin
Hi, Shirley,
What a touching account of all you went through growing up. Feeling isolated, unwanted, and unloved are such devastating emotions. Then to put abuse on top of it brings a whole new perspective to your turmoil.
I can remember feeling alone in a room full of people. I think our generation grew up with the mentality, 'Be seen and not heard.' As a child I certainly heard it, be it from my folks if we went somewhere and were supposed to behave, from teachers, or just adults in general, and it does have a long-term affect on a person. That added with all you went through, takes loneliness to a whole new level.
The main thing is that you survived and are stronger for it, my friend. And that you can write about it is a major step. Good for you!
A couple of typos for you.
~~ Has a slight indentation. ~~
At the time I survived each day simply because
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through the darkest hours
Cheers & Blessings
Keep Smilin'... Jax (*,*)
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reply by the author on 10-Dec-2014
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Hi, Shirley,
What a touching account of all you went through growing up. Feeling isolated, unwanted, and unloved are such devastating emotions. Then to put abuse on top of it brings a whole new perspective to your turmoil.
I can remember feeling alone in a room full of people. I think our generation grew up with the mentality, 'Be seen and not heard.' As a child I certainly heard it, be it from my folks if we went somewhere and were supposed to behave, from teachers, or just adults in general, and it does have a long-term affect on a person. That added with all you went through, takes loneliness to a whole new level.
The main thing is that you survived and are stronger for it, my friend. And that you can write about it is a major step. Good for you!
A couple of typos for you.
~~ Has a slight indentation. ~~
At the time I survived each day simply because
~~ You need a space after this line. ~~
through the darkest hours
Cheers & Blessings
Keep Smilin'... Jax (*,*)
This rating does not count towards story rating or author rank.
The highest and the lowest rating are not included in calculations.
Comment Written 10-Dec-2014
reply by the author on 10-Dec-2014
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Hi Jax,
Thank you for a thoughtful, and caring review.
I just want my children to understand that actions, reactions, and emotions they may think odd,
can be easily evoked when past memories are stirred.
The sum of who I am, has in part, been moulded by who I was... and through no fault of my own.
I will be writing my story in poetry and prose , and in stages for my children and for closure.
:-) Shirley
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I think this is a lovely gift to give your children. Go for it. (*,*)
Comment from patcelaw
Dear lady, as I was reading your words, it was if they were the words I spoke many times growing up in an abusive home. I was able to find worth because I met and married a wonderful man who se love for me we unconditional, I was 20 before I came to faith, and even with my faith I struggled with the messages that came to me as a child. My break through came when I was able to share my story with a group who takes life stories and makes them into radio dramas. I am not 76 and my story was submitted to the program in April. The script writer took what I had written and made it into a drama. The drama was aired in October 2014. If you would like to hear my story ggo to
www.oneplace.com/ministries/unshackled
Look in the archives for Oct 2014. My name is Patricia Lawrence, the story is 2 parts so listen to the first part so the second makes sense.
Blessings lady, and I do hope you can find the kind of peace with the past as I now have. Patricia
reply by the author on 10-Dec-2014
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Dear lady, as I was reading your words, it was if they were the words I spoke many times growing up in an abusive home. I was able to find worth because I met and married a wonderful man who se love for me we unconditional, I was 20 before I came to faith, and even with my faith I struggled with the messages that came to me as a child. My break through came when I was able to share my story with a group who takes life stories and makes them into radio dramas. I am not 76 and my story was submitted to the program in April. The script writer took what I had written and made it into a drama. The drama was aired in October 2014. If you would like to hear my story ggo to
www.oneplace.com/ministries/unshackled
Look in the archives for Oct 2014. My name is Patricia Lawrence, the story is 2 parts so listen to the first part so the second makes sense.
Blessings lady, and I do hope you can find the kind of peace with the past as I now have. Patricia
Comment Written 10-Dec-2014
reply by the author on 10-Dec-2014
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Thank you Patricia.
I appreciate this amazing six star review.
I'm sorry to hear that you also were a victim.
I'm sure your ability and choice to share those experiences
has helped the healing as well.
Thank you for your positive support and good wishes.
God Bless You.
:-) Shirley