Comment from Mary Kay Bonfante

Excellent

What a beautiful, loving marriage you had, Carol! And this is a truly touching letter you've composed, of what Mike might say, if he could write you such a letter. I didn't realize that you had the hope of many more good years together, and that he didn't even reach his 70th birthday. You endured many losses together -- I don't know the timing, but perhaps, all of them?
What a magnificent description of Heaven! But of course, you didn't write it by yourself, did you ;-)
May God be with you and strengthen you, especially during these times.

 Comment Written 13-Aug-2021

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reply by the author on 16-Aug-2021

Thank you so much for your generous thoughts and love my dear friend. He knew he would never see his 70th birthday, but as long as we were together he didn't seem to mind. Yes, we were friends and then a couple for 40 years.... we endured a lot, but I wouldn't trade a moment. thanks!

reply by Mary Kay Bonfante on 18-Aug-2021

That's amazing, so much time together, but it's never long enough when you love someone so much! If he knew he wouldn't see his 70th birthday, maybe he had a serious illness? That must have been very hard for you both.
Being together is so important, when you have that kind of love. May God see you through, until He dries every tear. Love, Mary Kay xoxo

Comment from Teri7

Excellent

This is truly beautiful my friend what you have penned. What a beautiful letter. You used such great loving and good descriptive words from the heart. It made my heart happy to read it I hope it helped you too. love and blessings, Teri

 Comment Written 12-Aug-2021

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reply by the author on 12-Aug-2021

Thank you, Teri

Yes, for some reason, I really felt like he was talking to me in the letter and it helped me get through the day. It was a blessing!

Smiles, Carol

Comment from NABattaglia

Excellent

This is such a hard topic to write on and I am so sorry you've experienced this. But what you've done with this piece on his anniversary is just spectacular and well done--a true salute. The advise here is something transferable to us all. Thank you for sharing.

 Comment Written 11-Aug-2021

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reply by the author on 12-Aug-2021

Thank you so much.

I needed something and I believe writing this letter and how I honestly believe he would write to me has helped me through this difficult time. I appreciate your kindness and the review.

Smiles and hugs, Carol

Comment from Seshadri_Sreenivasan

Exceptional

This is an absolutely moving piece of writing on the anniversary day of your husband's passing.! It is about grief, coping and life after a loss so lovingly told. It touches every reader's heart. You have used words to communicate and it helps us to feel a sense of commonality when we find our feelings, experiences, and observations match those of another. Thank you for sharing!

 Comment Written 11-Aug-2021

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reply by the author on 11-Aug-2021

Thank you so much, Seshadri!

It's odd but writing this helped me make it through the day. I know he would not have wanted me to spend it crying and instead I did what he loved about me... I wrote. I feel blessed by your thoughts and the stars. Thank you for the thoughtfulness and the support.

Smiles, Carol

Comment from Sandra Stoner-Mitchell

Excellent

I thought that incredibly lovely, Carol. Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could keep in touch once we have passed over, I would want to let my sons know I was alright, they are very emotional men when it comes to me. They even get cross with me just mentioning where they will find my funeral documents, all paid for, so it would be easy for them. Things they have to know. Thank goodness for daughter-in-laws.
I think that letter is exactly what he would be writing to you. Well done, my dear friend. Warm hugs and love. Sandra xx

 Comment Written 11-Aug-2021

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reply by the author on 11-Aug-2021

Good morning, Sandra

It felt right to connect with Mike through this letter instead of crying all day. He wouldn't want me to be living in sadness; he wanted me to laugh. So I'm working toward remembering that!

Smiles and hugs, Carol

Comment from justafan

Exceptional

My goodness, goose bumps girlfriend. Hauntingly beautiful.
Love like yours and Michaels is rare. It didn't last as long as you both wanted but by god you experienced a once in a lifetime kinda love. Kinda Jelly ...smilin.

Beautifully written and I'm positive his hand guided yours in the writing of it.

Always
Justafriend of yours
Missy

 Comment Written 10-Aug-2021

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reply by the author on 11-Aug-2021

Hi, Missy....

I've missed you, dear friend. I hope all is going well for you. I am trying my best to stay positive and laugh, because that's what he would want from me. Your words and stars touch me as well!

Smiles and hugs, Carol

Comment from Ric Myworld

Excellent

I'm sure this is going to be a rough day for you. And although those of us so far away can't help; besides, a few prayers and well wishes to let you know we care, you'll know that when the clouds part and the sunshine beams through, Michael will be watching you. There are better days coming! ((HUGS)) Ric

 Comment Written 10-Aug-2021

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reply by the author on 10-Aug-2021

I've never considered selfishness to be a party of my character, and to have wished for Mike to remain would have been cruel and unforgivable. I was blessed to share our lives together, and though I miss him, I am positive he is far better off than with me. He was in and out of the hospitals at least every month. I couldn't imagine either one of us facing Covid and quarantined separately. Our life was a gift... one I shall cherish... but nothing except memories last forever.

That's why each time you make me laugh or smile, it's awesome because it's a fresh memory for me to file away for those times when life isn't so kind again. You're a very special friend, and I am blessed.

I've lost a lot in this life, but the memories when I am alone will keep me able to face the next tomorrow. Oh yeah... Mike is watching.... so you better do a good job of making me laugh... because he's got the power.... you might be that squirrel. LOL

Smiles and hugs, Carol

reply by Ric Myworld on 10-Aug-2021

Hi, Carol,

I'm thankful you have your memories to look back on to enjoy the good times you've had. And frankly, without my memories, life would be difficult at times. They say most comedians are sad and depressed individuals whose joys in life come from making others smile. I'd say that's true for many and probably how they get their material. We all just take life one day at a time, hoping tomorrow will be better than yesterday or today. But I don't think that duck I hit with the lawnmower this morning would believe that. NO, I didn't hit a duck. A big hug and a peck on the forehead! Ric

Comment from Sherry Asbury

Excellent

My tears are falling - not in sadness for you as much as the feeling of sweetness in this write. I will say, how happy am I that you had this enduring and wonderful love. Written so very well!

 Comment Written 10-Aug-2021

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reply by the author on 10-Aug-2021

thank you, Sherry

I've never considered selfishness to be a party of my character, and to have wished for Mike to remain would have been cruel and unforgivable. I was blessed to share our lives together, and though I miss him, I am positive he is far better off than with me. He was in and out of the hospitals at least every month. I couldn't imagine either one of us facing Covid and quarantined separately. Our life was a gift... one I shall cherish... but nothing except memories last forever.

Smiles and hugs, Carol

Comment from Carol Clark2

Excellent

This is a beautiful letter remembering happy times with Mike. I know the day was a difficult one for you, but I'm glad you were able to put these loving thoughts together. I'm sure Michael is proud of you and your writing. Hugs and prayers. Carol

 Comment Written 10-Aug-2021

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reply by the author on 10-Aug-2021

Thank you, Carol

I've never considered selfishness to be a party of my character, and to have wished for Mike to remain would have been cruel and unforgivable. I was blessed to share our lives together, and though I miss him, I am positive he is far better off than with me. He was in and out of the hospitals at least every month. I couldn't imagine either one of us facing Covid and quarantined separately. Our life was a gift... one I shall cherish... but nothing except memories last forever.

Smiles, Carol

reply by Carol Clark2 on 10-Aug-2021

An example of God's perfect timing.

Comment from Cindy Decker 2

Excellent

Begin again,
I'm sorry for your loss.
What a wonderful sentiment: getting a letter from a deceased love one. It's also nice to known you helped your husband through his walk of being saved.
Excellent work.
Best wishes,
Cindy

 Comment Written 10-Aug-2021

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reply by the author on 10-Aug-2021

Thank you, Cindy

I've never considered selfishness to be a party of my character, and to have wished for Mike to remain would have been cruel and unforgivable. I was blessed to share our lives together, and though I miss him, I am positive he is far better off than with me. He was in and out of the hospitals at least every month. I couldn't imagine either one of us facing Covid and quarantined separately. Our life was a gift... one I shall cherish... but nothing except memories last forever.

Always, Carol

reply by Cindy Decker 2 on 10-Aug-2021

Carol, your words are a comfort to me and anyone who?s lost someone. Your attitude is selfless.
I learned that life goes on, even when a person is ?laden? with good memories.
You have such a good attitude. God bless you.
Cindy