A Day of Celebration
A Mexican party tradition is held.41 total reviews
Comment from Jesse James Doty
What a sad and melancholy ending. I read on the edge of my seat to this beautiful day of the dead party and how it worked but when I came to an end I felt sorrow for Zoe's death and its suddenness and for you who had to carry on. This touched my heart deeply.
Thanks for sharing this marvelous tradition and the festivities surrounding the mourning and grieving of those who have passed on. Have a lovely day,
Jesse
reply by the author on 27-Oct-2022
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What a sad and melancholy ending. I read on the edge of my seat to this beautiful day of the dead party and how it worked but when I came to an end I felt sorrow for Zoe's death and its suddenness and for you who had to carry on. This touched my heart deeply.
Thanks for sharing this marvelous tradition and the festivities surrounding the mourning and grieving of those who have passed on. Have a lovely day,
Jesse
Comment Written 27-Oct-2022
reply by the author on 27-Oct-2022
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Jesse, thank you for reading my story, it is not meant to be a downer, life goes on and we celebrate life. Terry.
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I understand. Us gringos need to let go and celebrate the past lives of those who we were close to.
Thanks for the advice and support.
Jesse
Comment from Mary Vigasin
Zoe was a beautiful lady inside and out. It sounds like she enjoyed entertaining and lived life with gusto. With the anniversary coming up shortly, I know it will be a sad day for you, and hope that you celebrate your own Day to remember how much she enjoyed the celebration.
My best wishes to you.
Mary
reply by the author on 27-Oct-2022
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Zoe was a beautiful lady inside and out. It sounds like she enjoyed entertaining and lived life with gusto. With the anniversary coming up shortly, I know it will be a sad day for you, and hope that you celebrate your own Day to remember how much she enjoyed the celebration.
My best wishes to you.
Mary
Comment Written 27-Oct-2022
reply by the author on 27-Oct-2022
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Mary, thank you for the six stars and for writing a very kind review. Terry.
Comment from Sandra Stoner-Mitchell
When we lived in Spain, we did the same there. I think it's a wonderful idea. It is a time to remember the love and fun things our loved ones left us. How ironic that Zoe died on the 1st November. I wonder if she is keeping an eye on you, making sure you keep it up. (Do you ?) I really enjoyed this little memory you've told us of your wife. Beautiful yet sad. Well done, Terry. Love and hugs, Sandra xx
reply by the author on 27-Oct-2022
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When we lived in Spain, we did the same there. I think it's a wonderful idea. It is a time to remember the love and fun things our loved ones left us. How ironic that Zoe died on the 1st November. I wonder if she is keeping an eye on you, making sure you keep it up. (Do you ?) I really enjoyed this little memory you've told us of your wife. Beautiful yet sad. Well done, Terry. Love and hugs, Sandra xx
Comment Written 27-Oct-2022
reply by the author on 27-Oct-2022
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Sandra, thank you for reading and reviewing my story. I don't do the parties anymore. I do the altar. It includes a picture of her in the swimming pool floating drinking a beer, a bag of Cheetos, M&Ms, Fess Parker Chardonnay, and a picture of the Queen (they had the same birthday). Terry.
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I'm glad you do something, she'll be smiling down on you on the 1st November. That must be hard to be happy and have a party. I couldn't do that either. My first husband died nearly 40 years ago, and my sons and I always have a special moment together, thinking of him and just remembering. xxx
Comment from Tom Horonzy
It sounded like a lot of fun. Did the parties end with her death, or do you carry on her tradition? Thanks for sharing. ..................................................................
reply by the author on 27-Oct-2022
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It sounded like a lot of fun. Did the parties end with her death, or do you carry on her tradition? Thanks for sharing. ..................................................................
Comment Written 27-Oct-2022
reply by the author on 27-Oct-2022
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Tom, thank you for reading. I don't do the parties, but I do the altar for her it with Cheetos, M&Ms, Fess Parker Chardonnay, and a magazine with cover of the Queen (they shard the same birthday). Terry.
Comment from Katherine M. (k-11)
This is a beautiful photograph of Zoe to go with your wonderful memories. You have taught us a lot in this essay, about cultural aspects of November 1st. In France it is an important day to honour our dead, but we don't usually have a party. Maybe we should. It is an important part of mourning to learn to rejoice about a life, and it helps to cope with loss I find. Thus, as well as death days, I continue to celebrate birthdays of my loved ones, and I write about them - for me that works. I hope it does for you too. Take care, I will think of you especially hard in the coming week. Kate xx
reply by the author on 27-Oct-2022
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This is a beautiful photograph of Zoe to go with your wonderful memories. You have taught us a lot in this essay, about cultural aspects of November 1st. In France it is an important day to honour our dead, but we don't usually have a party. Maybe we should. It is an important part of mourning to learn to rejoice about a life, and it helps to cope with loss I find. Thus, as well as death days, I continue to celebrate birthdays of my loved ones, and I write about them - for me that works. I hope it does for you too. Take care, I will think of you especially hard in the coming week. Kate xx
Comment Written 27-Oct-2022
reply by the author on 27-Oct-2022
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Kate, thank you for reading and your very kind review. Terry.
Comment from lyenochka
I'm guessing the lovely lady gracing this post is none other than Zoe herself! Thanks for sharing her favorite holiday tradition. You two must have put one quite a lot of parties! And I'm sure everyone enjoyed themselves. Will you have a DoD party this year?
reply by the author on 27-Oct-2022
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I'm guessing the lovely lady gracing this post is none other than Zoe herself! Thanks for sharing her favorite holiday tradition. You two must have put one quite a lot of parties! And I'm sure everyone enjoyed themselves. Will you have a DoD party this year?
Comment Written 27-Oct-2022
reply by the author on 27-Oct-2022
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Helen, thank you for reading my story. I don't do the party, but there is an altar for her. A picture of her in a bathing suit floating in a pool with a cold beer, Cheetos, M&Ms, Fess Parker Chardonnay, a picture of the Queen (they had the same birthday). Terry.
Comment from Sandra Nelms-Ludwig
This is a beautiful story and tribute to your beloved Zoe. She sounded like a lady who knew how to celebrate life. I don't believe in coincidences. Things happen as they are intended. She and God selected that date so you would remember she was about fun and wish for you to continue having fun. You are fresh into your grieving process. I feel mourning is a very personal process. You must mourn at your own pace and as long as it takes for you. Make an altar to her memory on DOD. Do it your way. She will look down and smile. I wrote on my calendar send good thoughts towards Texas to Terry on November first. It's a lovely photo of Zoe. She had a pretty smile. Thanks for sharing my friend.
reply by the author on 27-Oct-2022
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This is a beautiful story and tribute to your beloved Zoe. She sounded like a lady who knew how to celebrate life. I don't believe in coincidences. Things happen as they are intended. She and God selected that date so you would remember she was about fun and wish for you to continue having fun. You are fresh into your grieving process. I feel mourning is a very personal process. You must mourn at your own pace and as long as it takes for you. Make an altar to her memory on DOD. Do it your way. She will look down and smile. I wrote on my calendar send good thoughts towards Texas to Terry on November first. It's a lovely photo of Zoe. She had a pretty smile. Thanks for sharing my friend.
Comment Written 27-Oct-2022
reply by the author on 27-Oct-2022
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Sandra, thank you for the six stars and the wonderful review. You are right about the mourning process. I know you have firsthand experience with it. I am reminded of the song, "Mr. Bojangles." When his dog died, he mourned twenty years. Terry.
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You are most welcome. Anytime someone reveals his or her vulnerable side it is too be applauded. We are from the generation that taught men and women to just ingest pain and keep on trucking. When you lose someone like your Zoe or my Ginia that shit doesn't work. Mourn as long as you want. You had 44 years together. How does one forget that amount of time in a few months or years. Impossible! I will think of you
and Zoe on November 1st.
Comment from Douglas Goff
First, and foremost Terry, I am sorry for your loss. Second, Zoe sounded like an incredibly warm and wonderful woman.
About the writing, I gave the six star because it was written genuinely, straight-forward, and well. You didn't try to blow it up with flowery words of artistic description. You were simply a man telling a story. Very genuine.
Besides, I love your work.
Thank you for sharing, Sir!
reply by the author on 27-Oct-2022
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First, and foremost Terry, I am sorry for your loss. Second, Zoe sounded like an incredibly warm and wonderful woman.
About the writing, I gave the six star because it was written genuinely, straight-forward, and well. You didn't try to blow it up with flowery words of artistic description. You were simply a man telling a story. Very genuine.
Besides, I love your work.
Thank you for sharing, Sir!
Comment Written 27-Oct-2022
reply by the author on 27-Oct-2022
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Douglas, thank you for the six stars. Your review is simply beautifully written. Thanks. Terry.
Comment from Wendy G
She was very beautiful, and very talented, and it sounds like you had a lot of happiness and fun together during your long marriage. As it comes close to the anniversary of her passing, my thoughts are with you. I enjoyed your well written story, and the background to the parties.
Wendy
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reply by the author on 27-Oct-2022
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She was very beautiful, and very talented, and it sounds like you had a lot of happiness and fun together during your long marriage. As it comes close to the anniversary of her passing, my thoughts are with you. I enjoyed your well written story, and the background to the parties.
Wendy
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Comment Written 27-Oct-2022
reply by the author on 27-Oct-2022
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Wendy, thank you for the very kind review. Terry.
Comment from karenina
Zoe is beautiful. What a blessed 44 years you had together! I'm a blubbering mess now,
particularly as I was so immersed in the DoD celebration and tradition I was ill prepared
for the emotional ending.
You bring Zoe to us in such a loving way, Terry.
I admire your devotion...and I am sure Zoe will tell you the same in God's own time.
I just came from listening to Kris Kristofferson...
Tears and smiles brimmed as I heard:
"But dreaming was as easy as believing it was never gonna end
And loving her was easier than anything I'll ever do again"
It never does end. Love is eternal.
Karenina
reply by the author on 27-Oct-2022
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Zoe is beautiful. What a blessed 44 years you had together! I'm a blubbering mess now,
particularly as I was so immersed in the DoD celebration and tradition I was ill prepared
for the emotional ending.
You bring Zoe to us in such a loving way, Terry.
I admire your devotion...and I am sure Zoe will tell you the same in God's own time.
I just came from listening to Kris Kristofferson...
Tears and smiles brimmed as I heard:
"But dreaming was as easy as believing it was never gonna end
And loving her was easier than anything I'll ever do again"
It never does end. Love is eternal.
Karenina
Comment Written 27-Oct-2022
reply by the author on 27-Oct-2022
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Karenina, thank you for the six stars, and being such a kind and wise woman. Terry.
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MY pleasure.